Many of you know g-spot expert Deborah Sundahl as Fanny Fatale. In “Ask Fanny,” an exclusive column created just for this newsletter, she answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.
This month, Fanny Fatale is in the United Kingdom and Germany to promote her
book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot. So we're
rerunning one of Fanny's most popular columns, from August, 2005, "Fake
Squirting."
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Dear Fanny,
It seems like in some porn movies women fake having orgasms. Can you fake female ejaculation? Or is all the squirting I see in porn movies real?
Just Curious
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Dear Just Curious,
The only way you can fake female ejaculation is to urinate. While it may be a little difficult to tell the difference between ejaculating and urinating from your DVD player while watching a porn movie, in real life it would be exceedingly obvious. This is due to the fact that urine smells and is warm, whereas female ejaculate is odorless and not as warm as urine.
When female ejaculation first caught on a few years ago in the adult industry, I heard rumors that some stars were using water-filled syringes, which they inserted into their vaginas. They would squeeze the syringe and the water would then spurt forth. As we know, however, female ejaculation is emitted from the urethral opening, not the vagina.
I suppose faking female ejaculation in an adult movie is not out of step with the business of acting, and surely not out of step with how sex is portrayed in the adult film business, which is notorious for faking everything but a man’s hard-on. Indeed, female orgasm itself has rarely been portrayed realistically in the majority of adult films. In fact, Fatale Media was started in direct response to the desire to show real women having real orgasms, as well as real lesbians making real lesbian love. Clips was the first Fatale video to show me ejaculating on film.
As a sex educator, I’ve heard many stories of parents giving their children porn films to learn about sex, and of course many adults, young and old, turn to adult films for sex education. I once told a well-known and award-winning adult director that the porn stars are providing sex education and are sex educators, in a sense, because of all the folks who watch and mimic what they see in porn films. He laughed at me for thinking the adult stars were educators. Needless to say, I didn’t pursue the conversation any further. I was shocked, however, by his cavalier attitude, which is old-fashioned and out of sync with today’s new, young couples’ market and more open attitudes by the general public toward sex and porn.
But getting back to your question, in my DVD, Female Ejaculation for Couples, I show the G-spot, literally. You can see the G-spot when it is aroused, full of fluid and the woman is in the process of ejaculating, because she is using her vaginal muscles to push it out. This “pushing out” of the ejaculate, which a woman can do manually without an orgasm or almost instinctually with an orgasm, causes the G-spot to “move forward” or “peep through” the vaginal opening. If a woman is urinating and her G-spot is not aroused, you will not be able to see the G-spot in this manner. As we get more used to actually seeing and feeling the G-spot, it will become quite easy to tell - in a close-up shot of a woman ejaculating in a porn movie, for instance - whether she is ejaculating or urinating.
For some other really great visuals on the G-spot during ejaculation, check out Dr. Suzy Blocks’ new DVD Squirt Salon. I appear in that DVD teaching Dr. Suzy how to ejaculate. Two other starlets appear in this DVD, and the close-ups of their G-spots during ejaculation are the best to date of actually being able to SEE the G-spot.
Fanny
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