Dear Friend,

Every December our attention turns to our families and friends with whom we’ll celebrate Christmas. We send presents back east to New York and Washington, D.C.; north to Minnesota and Seattle; and we have oodles of fun in the kitchen baking dozens of cookies to give to friends and neighbors nearby.

But the most fun we have is planning sexy presents and goodies for each other. Whether it’s a soak in a Jacuzzi or a delicious erotic massage this kind of imaginative gift-giving means more than all the tchotchkes in the world.

Don’t get us wrong—we like tchochkes (Yiddish for “trinkets”) when they’re accompanied by some creative forethought.

Buying a digital camera for someone you love? Take a photograph of yourself naked first and pin it to the wrapped package.

Think that she’d like a lacy corset and panties this year? Write a note that promises her a night of unadulterated sex...only if and when she dresses up for you in the new lingerie.

What about a new butt-plug? Create a handmade box just for this special toy. Line it with velvet or leather, wrap it in the same fabric and add a red fabric ribbon with your lover’s name written right on the ribbon.

And remember the romance that led you to this wonderful place, too. Dinner and a movie are always welcome—with dinner promised at her favorite restaurant. An evening of home cooking, when you do the cooking and she gets to relax, is another favorite.

Use your imagination!

Happy Holidays!

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Many of you travel during the holiday season, so we thought we’d offer some holiday travel basics when traveling with sex toys.

Pack your vibrator in your checked luggage. If you’re not checking your luggage, wrap the vibrator in a resealable plastic bag so an inspector can see what’s in it. To be on the safe side, unscrew the bottom of the vibrator and place it in a separate plastic baggie.

Do pack condoms, whether you’re headed to a Catholic country or not. You never know if you’ll have a chance to hit the drugstore when the occasion arises.

Take the batteries out of your vibrators! You don’t want the thing accidentally going off in the middle of your trip or scaring inspectors at airport check-ins.

Leave your knives, lighters and other sharp or fiery playthings at home. If you must travel with a knife, you’ll have to check it in your luggage.

Leather whips and strap-ons can travel in your carry-on luggage. Just be prepared to face down an inspector should there be a question. Heavy buckles on a strap-on in particular might draw attention to themselves as it rides through the X-ray.

Handcuffs should not be carried on board an airplane. Chains will have a similar effect at check-in. Best to pack them in your checked luggage.

Put bottles of lube in a sealed plastic bag, and then place that bag inside another sealed plastic bag. Changes in altitude and air pressure can force them to leak, and you don’t want to ruin that lovely outfit you’ve been planning to wear for the family holiday get-together!

You can pack dildos in your carry-on or checked luggage, but you’re better off not wearing one with a strap-on, because the buckles may set off alarms, you’ll be faced with a pat-down. Despite how cute some of the guards are at the airport, your chances are slim you’ll get the cute one to frisk you.

If you’re pierced, you have a few options. Check out the Tiny Nibbles article below for more advice on traveling with piercings.

Final advice? Don’t travel with anything you can’t part with. That expensive whip? Check it or leave it home.

Send your comments to christi@fatalemedia.com.

You asked for it, we promised, and now the DVDs are coming in. We’ve staged the production roll-out, and there are more coming.

Now on DVD:

Suburban Dykes - with the inimitable Nina Hartley and Miss Sharon Mitchell.

Full Load: Scenes from ssspread.com - yowza! These dykes can’t be stopped!

Afterschool Special and Turn Me Up Over and On - this double DVD of amateur lesbian porn will knock your socks off. Both winners of Fatale’s Real Lesbian Sex contest.

Coming this month:

Hungry Hearts - Pepper and Reeva share a romantic, sexy weekend at a resort. Order now for December 14, 2005 shipping.

Bathroom Sluts - these are girls gone wild! Order now for December 14, 2005 shipping.

Many of you know g-spot expert Deborah Sundahl as Fanny Fatale. In “Ask Fanny,” an exclusive column created just for this newsletter, she answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Dear Fanny:

Sometimes my pussy gets sore while I'm making love. It takes a long time for me to get turned on and "awaken" my g-spot. Do you have any advice? I don't want my partner to feel bad.

Thanks,

A Reader and Fan of Yours

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Dear Reader,

Since this is the "Art of Giving" issue in the Fatale Media newsletter, I'll answer your question from that side of things.

It's important to remember that the G-spot has a different nerve than the clitoris, and therefore a different orgasmic sensation. I call the G-spot the "gateway to higher love and intimacy," because its pre-orgasmic sensation - when touched correctly - is one of surrendering to love. It's a delicious feeling.

In order for your partner, and yourself, to open up and develop this G-spot sensation in yourself, your G-spot must be touched initially with as much care and tenderness as one would touch a rose petal; i.e., so gently as to not tear its delicate tissue.

We as a culture have mostly been exposed to rough-and-tumble sex, to the point that many men marvel at how tough the vagina really is. And, as women who almost instinctively prepare ourselves for this onslaught, we tense up with the very first touch to our genitals so totally often we don't even know we are tensing. This tensing shuts down the natural ability of the G-spot to create swift and juicy erotic sensations with such ease that once we taste this feeling and experience this ability, we could very well choose to throw our vibrators out for good.

As for telling your partner, you have two choices. You can buy lubricant and always rub some on your G-spot before sex...or you can try to show him/her just how very gently your G-spot needs to be touched--at first. (Remember, you will want it harder and faster once you are warmed up and especially after you have had your first orgasm and ejaculated.)

The best way to teach her is to spend some time with yourself first. That way, you can feel in your body what I am talking about. Then, you will have more confidence when you tell him or her, because this self-knowledge will have developed your natural ability to open up and receive "The Gift of Giving" (surrendering to her touch with all the love cells your body can produce). You will be amazed at how quickly you will get wet wet as a result, too.

This takes practice over time, so don't give up evolving! The wonderful sensations and heightened connection are so worth the effort!

Fanny

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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Just a reminder that when you order three videos or DVDs, you get free shipping within the U.S.

Order by December 20 in the U.S. for Christmas/Hanukah delivery, December 22 for rush delivery in the U.S. See the holiday shipping schedule.

Plus, we offer free gift-wrapping and free gift cards. Just click “gift wrap” on the order form. Fatale’s got perfect gifts—and new gift packages—for Christmas, Hanukah, birthdays, anniversaries and wedding celebrations!

In last month’s poll, we asked: How old were you when you had your first orgasm?

This question must have spurred a lot of memories, because we had more responses than any previous poll. A total of 340 votes (as of this writing) tops all. And most of you weighed in on the lower end of the spectrum for your first orgasm!

To see the complete results of last month’s poll, click here.

Next month the Sex Tips column is going to address spanking. To get a head start, we think some “research” is in order.

Let us know: Is spanking part of your sex life?

We are especially interested in your comments, advice and suggestions for people who want to try spanking in their sex play. Do you have favorite spanking Web sites? Advice born of experience? A particular technique that makes your partner squirm?

Let us know, too, how you’d like to be identified if we use your comments. Most people like to use their first names only. But if you prefer to remain anonymous, that’s okay too.

This poll is completely anonymous. It’s on Fatale’s home page.

We welcome your comments. Send an e-mail to christi@fatalemedia.com and you may see your words published here!

Stay tuned, and we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex!

Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com