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Fatale Media Newsletter November 2003
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In This Issue:
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Thanksgiving
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Dear Friend,
In the U.S. we celebrate Thanksgiving this month, and we thought we would take this opportunity to say thank you to all of you who have supported Fatale in the last year.
Because of you, this is Bend Over Boyfriend's fifth consecutive year on retailers' bestseller lists around the world. We hear that in France "girls pegging guys" is quite the rage. Hot Video (newsstand only) is writing a piece on the subject for an upcoming issue. We'll keep you posted.
Take Her Down! Lesbian Erotic Oil Wrestling Party has soared on our own bestselling list, including a prenomination vote from Adult Video News. We find out later this month if it's nominated for their annual awards held at Comcast in Las Vegas in January. Cross your fingers!
Full Load: Scenes from ssspread.com wouldn't have been in existence without you, and without the incredible talent of director Barbara DeGenevieve from ssspread.com. The reviews have been out of sight. But most important is all those wonderful dykes who make love in front of Barbara's camera.
And last but not least, thank you to all those amateur filmmakers who submitted to Fatale's own Real Lesbian Sex contest. We're pleased to add to the roster of "women making porn for women" in Turn Me Up Over and On, this year's winner by Chicago-based lesbian pornographer Carolyn Caizzi.
To all our friends in North America and around the world--especially those of you in the U.K. and Ireland, France, Germany, Spain, Japan, Australia and Denmark--who write to us on a regular basis (you know who you are), thank you all for making Fatale a continuing reality.
Yours in porn,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
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So you've had the romantic dinner, seen the romantic movie, had a drink at the bar, and now what? Sure, it's late, but you don't want to end this wonderful evening, right?
Ever thought about the fire escape? What about that alley behind the bar? The car could be fun, but it's kinda uncomfortable to squish down in the back seat, especially if you've got long legs, or a really hungry pussy.
The first time we made love outdoors was up on the roof at our West 20th Street apartment in New York City. The sky was clear; you could see the Empire State Building just north of us, the World Trade Center downtown.
What made it even more fun was all the lighted windows from the building on 21st Street...all those Rear Window voyeurs to check us out. No, the roof wasn't lit, but there was enough light from the street lamps to make it interesting.
Our building was right next to the precinct, so that made it even more fun! Slammed up against the brick chimney that jutted up was perfect for a quickie, the ending to a perfect evening.
Since then we've done it in alleys, in public parks (watch out for the Park Rangers, though), in open-air saunas and, like Allie and Dione in Safe Is Desire in sex clubs.
In sex clubs you can really trot out your leathers and latex and fun clothes. But for the general public, we've found it helps to wear accessible clothes--a short skirt is perfect for all you femmes (but you already knew that). And now that it's getting to be winter in the north, long coats with very little underneath can be a real turn-on.
So enjoy! And don't get caught.
E-mail your tips and tricks to christi@fatalemedia.com. You could be published here!
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Many of you know g-spot expert Deborah Sundahl as Fanny Fatale. In "Ask Fanny," an exclusive column created just for this newsletter, she answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.
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Dear Fanny,
Does female ejaculation help for vaginal dryness? This is something I've experience now and then. Should I just use more lube?
Dry in Denver
via e-mail
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Dear Dry in Denver,
Female ejaculation is emitted from the urethra, not the vagina, so technically ejaculate is not vaginal lubrication. In addition, it is watery rather than the creamy thickness of vaginal juices. Also, women usually ejaculate after some juicy vaginal stimulation and usually (but not always) with orgasm. So, although ejaculate certainly makes things wet and slippery, it would come too late in the game to be much help with vaginal dryness.
Yes, lube is the best help for vaginal dryness, and there are many new and wonderful products to choose from: designer lubes, heavy duty lubes, tried and tested lubes (like Foreplay and Astroglide), lubes with hemp, and even herbal lubricants. I am developing a 100% natural, plant-based herbal lubricant called Joy Glide. As an herbalist as well as a sex educator, I have used lubricants for many years and have always been disappointed with the aftertaste and the sticky feeling, as well as hesitant about putting petroleum-based products on a regular basis into the vagina. My herbal lubricant is nourishing to the vagina, and I must admit the first time I used it, my vagina went 'ahhh.' My vagina seemed to shout, "Finally something good rather than harsh for me!"
But before you reach for a quick remedy, there are technical and emotional factors to consider in vaginal dryness. Quite often, many women do not receive gentle stimulation with the skill needed to make their vaginas juicy, open and ready for intercourse. Many women get bladder infections from accepting intercourse before they are truly ready. Vaginal dryness can also be an indicator of how comfortable you feel with sex, or how comfortable you feel with your partner. Interestingly, these same situations can prevent a woman from creating and expelling ejaculate fluid.
A woman must be open and comfortable with her body and her sexuality, and she needs to like her partner and be happy to make love to him/her or ejaculation can be difficult to impossible to achieve. Without going into a lot of detail, it seems ejaculating is easiest and most copious when a woman is truly in love with her partner. And in order to ejaculate, a woman must be aroused with some skill and care before intercourse, in order to provide enough stimulation to the g-spot to build the ejaculate. Without these two important elements, ejaculation simply won't occur in most cases.
Best wishes,
Fanny
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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com
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