Dear Friend,

When we first stumbled upon this Australian News Corp. article with the claim that “WOMEN who have sex with other women and those who expand their sexual repertoire are more likely to have orgasms,” according to an Australian sex study, we had to read on.

According to this article, 31.1 percent of straight women did NOT have an orgasm the last time they had sex, and only 24 percent of women who’d been to bed with a woman had not.

Wow! Lesbians have more orgasms. Sounds okay to us.

But the actual study, published in the Journal of Sex Research from the Australian study of 19,300 HET men and women says nothing about lesbian sex. (We e-mailed the editor at the Australian News Corp. and asked for the source, but no answer yet.)

This study of heterosexuals is fascinating. Every other sex practice besides the usual intercourse increases women’s chances for orgasm.

Specifically, anal sex, cunnilingus, fellatio and “manual stimulation” all increase the likelihood of women having an orgasm.

Here’s the University of Sydney’s news release about the study, in which one of the co-authors, Chris Rissel, says:

“Much of the research on female difficulties with orgasm or with heterosexual sex in general has focused more on indirect causes, such as upbringing, attitudes, religion, marital adjustment, anxiety, previous traumatic experience, rather than proximal causes, such as the form of stimulation received.

“Recent attempts have been made to medicalize women's sexual difficulties to create a market for ‘pink Viagra.’ However, our findings suggest that the proximal cause—the sexual stimulation delivered to women in the typical, rigidly scripted heterosexual interaction—has more to do with whether they reach orgasm (and we suspect, enjoy sex) than with more obscure and distant causes.”

In other words, more foreplay means more orgasms for women.

For sexual adventurers, this can’t be news. But it’s nice to know the academics are verifying what we’ve suspected all along.

And as Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Ask Fanny, has been showing us all along, long, slow stimulation of the G-spot can create mind-blowing orgasms for women.

Now, here’s the one question we wished the researchers had asked:

The last time you had sex, did she put her penis into your anus?

Women who play with sex toys, as the study shows, have more orgasms with their boyfriends or husbands too.

And speaking of sex toys, next month we’ve got a surprise for those of you who liked Full Load: Scenes from ssspread.com. Stay tuned!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Lesbian porno queen Shar Rednour is our guest columnist this month. This is the second of a two-part column on lubes. “Let’s Get Real About Lube, Part 1” appeared in the August issue of Fatale Media Newsletter. Welcome back, Shar!

Shar’s Lube Job, Part 2
By Shar Rednour

STOP. Hold the wire—KY has out a new lube that is a spray! I was watching Project Runway when I saw the commercial. I wanted to run right out and try it —oh, you know, strictly for experimental reasons—ha ha. But I have deadline to meet so please write in and let us know if you have tried this KY spray lube or not and what you thought.

Regarding the rest of the water-based lubes, I try to pick ones the same way I pick my ice cream: the fewer ingredients and the more words I can pronounce the better.

For example—for me—this logic rules out Liquid Silk. What is in that stuff? And as a dyke, it kinda grosses me out that it’s creamy and white. That said—I have to say this is just my opinion. On the floors of sex toy stores I have sold countless bottles of the stuff. It’s popular.

I like the Astroglide lube that Good Vibrations, where most of these lubes are available, has put their name on. It lasts wonderfully.

I also like plain old-fashioned Astroglide. We used a lot of it making movies.

Some of our funniest behind-the-scenes come from the bottle falling off the table, clunking onto the floor (sound-babe’s mad!) and rolling out of reach of the fuck-er. Then a hot little baby-dyke assistant has to crawl under the camera out of sight and hand the lube back up to whatever hot top is doing the do.

Have I mentioned we have to turn away a lot of volunteer assistants?—tee-hee.

New to the market: I love that KY is getting competitive. The old horse that started it all at the gyno’s office has some hot new looks. I like KY’s warming lube. It feels really good and my gals who have super-sensitive pussies report back that they have not gotten any bad reactions so far.

I have two mentions regarding my lube column part 1 about silicone lubes.

One of my faithful femme sisters insists that she uses the very expensive Eros brand silicone lube with her toys and that it has not made them permanently tacky (this is what webstores and I have warned you about). The ones that I tried were not Eros brand.

Finally Suzy Suburbanite said that she felt like olive oil could give some women infections. I have never heard of this with myself or countless other women who have tried it or used almond oil.

Before water-based lubes got popular this is what midwives or women-centric doctors recommended. Of course it should be properly stored and not double-dipped, etc. Use common sense. But this is the point of sharing information. It’s her experience that she has had an infection from it and it’s my experience that I haven’t. She also had concerns about the butt use. I stand corrected on that. We did use it for the butt but I would recommend a thicker lubricant like Probe Thick n Rich. Most oils are too thin and have to be reapplied endlessly.

Annie Sprinkle’s Herstory of Porn - not for the faint of heart!

Phyllis Christopher’s Sextrospective - a perfect date-night stills show DVD to play while you woo her to bed

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In last month’s poll, we asked: Have you ever been someone’s first lover?

The majority said yes and loved it. And that’s great!

There were 100 votes as of this writing, but the voting was all over the place, yea and nay. Check out the complete results of last month’s poll here.

In the new poll, we ask: In your last sexual experience with a partner, did you have an orgasm? Be honest!

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex!

Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com