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Fatale Media Newsletter October 2003
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Dear Friend,
On darker days, it seems a sense of humor is missing from women's porn.
But then we come across something that is just laugh-out-loud funny. Young filmmakers in particular seem less afraid to explore this wonderful touch in porn videos. The latest winner of Fatale's Real Lesbian Sex contest, Carolyn Caizzi, has just that touch of the zany we love in her new video, Turn Me Up Over and On.
Carolyn made a short piece called "Titillation," which she placed before the main feature of her entry, a hot-and-heavy, hands-down-the-pants, give-us-the-vibrator-right-away flick.
The short stars Carolyn herself, or rather, her breasts. Shiny tasseled pasties don't detract from the antics her breasts are doing in this wonderful comedy that transports us to vaudeville, with music by Craig Riley.
We were hooked. From this Chicago-based young dyke with chutzpah--she's 100% committed to women's porn--comes just the sort of amateur sex video the Real Lesbian Sex contest was created for and meant to celebrate.
What does a funny sexy short do when juxtaposed with a moaning, groaning orgasm-filled feature? We like to think of it as an amuse-bouche, those wonderful little "whims of the chef" served up in nice French restaurants before the serious matter of fine cuisine fills your plate.
Bon appetit!
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
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Kissing is the most amazing sensation. "Do you have real dykes really kissing?" people ask us all the time. Really kissing. Not air kissing. Not pretending to kiss. But the real thing.
In all the porn we see and have made, girls really kissing is what makes the scene. (See Take Her Down!, Suburban Dykes or Hungry Hearts.) Kissing is the trigger to the sex that follows, but it's more than that. Good kissers are hard to find...especially if you're picky. Lots of tongue? A little tongue? Nibbling the lip? Or just firmly planted? Eyes open or closed?
Does a good first kiss mean a new lover will be good going down on you? We think there's something to that.
Kissing is about the hunger. If that urgency isn't there, then you have to wonder if the lust will be lacking too.
Most of us get better with practice. Who doesn't remember her first kiss, the one that happened at the prom, in the back seat of a car, or walking home from the library. Oh, how mortifying to remember back. Unless you were a passionate kid, with a penchant for steamy old Hollywood movies, how the hell do you even know how to kiss at that age?
We practiced on our hands, holding them in a loose fists and pretending that where the thumb met the forefinger was a mouth. Yeah, right. The only problem with that is, the hand can't kiss back!
The first real kiss is something else altogether. You know it when you get it. And there's nothing tentative about it. The hunger is right there, and mutual.
Kissing is also the social glue that keeps relationships together. It's rare that even a peck on the cheek doesn't make you feel loved, ready to go out into the world knowing you're loved.
E-mail your tips and tricks to christi@fatalemedia.com. You could be published here!
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Toronto rules this month. A new magazine, Smut ("Pretty Much What It Sounds Like") is on the newsstands in Toronto with Jen Bowers' fabulous review of Take Her Down! and Full Load: Scenes from ssspread.com. Smut's web site isn't really up yet, but you can contact them if you want to order a copy.
Jen writes about Take Her Down!: "The sexiest thing about this flick is that it takes its time. There isn't ruthless abandon in the sex. The wrestling slowly turns into fondling, which slowly moves to making out. There's no hurry to the motions, actions are drawn out to give the watcher plenty of time to warm up to the next level of intimacy. When the characters do end up having sex, you're ready for it, anticipating it....I loved this film. I've loaned it out to several friends, male and female, who have all reported that it was the hottest thing they'd ever watched. I agree, and I've seen a lot of porn in my day. For once, I didn't fast forward through anything."
About Full Load she writes: "The filming of Full Load is hot, the celebration of sexuality obvious....Fatale Media brings home the sexy world of lesbians you don't actually know with a vengeance."
Also from the folks at Toronto's Eye.net comes a feature on Take Her Down!'s composer, D.J. Quasimojo. There's some wonderful compliments about Take Her Down! by writer Denise Benson. Check it out on the Web, or if you live in Toronto, pick up a copy!
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Many of you know g-spot expert Deborah Sundahl as Fanny Fatale. In "Ask Fanny," an exclusive column created just for this newsletter, she answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.
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Dear Fanny,
What is tantric sex? Is it the same thing as Annie Sprinkle's "energy orgasms"?
Just Curious
via e-mail
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Dear Just Curious,
Tantra is an ancient philosophy and science from India that, among other things, viewed sexuality as sacred.
Tantra practitioners believed that sexual energy is the source of life (the equivalent to chi in Chinese medicine), and that this energy is carried through the body by the breath, setting every nerve on erotic fire. They developed hours-long rituals of enhanced erotic techniques and positions to heighten the senses to their fullest. Their goal was to have long, extended orgasms that transport the couple in union into an altered state. The sex act to them was like praying.
There is much we can borrow from Tantra in learning to awaken not only the g-spot and produce ejaculate specifically, but to deepen our orgasms and intimacy with our partners in general.
Tantra approaches sex by "slowing way down" to heighten the erotic pleasure and provide deeper levels of intimacy with your loved one. For example, try this often-used Tantra position and techniques: Sit on your partner's lap facing him or her while in intercourse (dildo, penis or fingers) and gaze into each other's eyes. While you are aroused, stroke each other's body with the intent of "bringing the erotic energy up" from the genital area and "spreading" it all over the body. Make the lovemaking last as long as possible.
The position creates a straight spine which facilitates the sexual energy to flow throughout the body while you "spread" it through touch, and the eye-gazing creates a deep connection between you two. The position, touch, eye-connection and unrushed lovemaking provides the kind of stimulation and security that gives women the connection and relaxation necessary for most women to let go into orgasm, as well as to ejaculate most freely and copiously. It also provides the time needed to practice sensitizing your entire body to erotic pleasure.
At first this may seem awkward and have little results. This is only because we Westerners like our sex fast and with intense stimulation (like vibrators or big, hard dildos). What you are learning to do is slow down and zero in--in minute detail--on feeling the subtleties of erotic pleasure everywhere in the body. It's worth the patience and practice, because it is possible to achieve multiple orgasms or five-minute orgasms, like the one Annie Sprinkle made famous in her video Masturbation Memoirs. Annie achieved her five-minute orgasms by learning to ultrasensitize her body to erotic pleasure via Tantra methods.
Tuning in to the body's full capacity to feel erotic pleasure is an essential ingredient in learning to "awaken" or "re-sensitize" the g-spot. As we know, the g-spot is the female prostate gland, and therefore its natural state is as sensitive as a man's prostate.
By "tuning in" to your g-spot using the Tantra approach, you will discover a deep sensation of loving pleasure emanating from the g-spot that most women never dreamed was possible, as well as an ability to come vaginally in a very short time! Becoming adept at this technique means an end to 20-minute oral applications to get a woman aroused, in the mood or to orgasm. Sex can become more connected, more pleasurable from the very first moment, and orgasms even more satisfying. Thank you, Tantra!
Though sport sex is fun and a necessary step to achieving these higher states of erotic pleasure and connection, it is nice to realize there is a method that shows us how to express and feel more love in our sexuality. Especially in Western culture, where sex is shown mostly to sell products or sensationalized as sinful or viewed mostly from the lens of an adolescent male viewpoint, Tantra has arrived on the American scene to offer a more loving and fulfilling alternative.
See Margot Anand's book, The Art of Sexual Ecstasy, the modern Tantra classic, for more information, and Charles and Caroline Muir's Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving.
The Light Body Temple offers classes and one on one training in Tantra in the Seattle area. I'll be at the temple doing workshops and sessions October 20-27th. Make arrangement through the Web page or call 800-767-7445.
Best wishes,
Fanny
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Editor's note: As Deborah Sundahl, Fanny has also produced and starred in the educational video Tantric Journey to Female Orgasm: Unveiling the G-Spot and Female Ejaculation.
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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.
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In each issue of Fatale News, we want to hear your ideas, opinions, comments. In the last issue we asked, "What do you like better, giving or getting anal sex?"
If you don't write in, we can't publish your answers!
This month, we're going to change the subject. In Jo-Anne Baker's Sex Tips, Ky, the proprietor of London's Sh! writes:
"Imagination is the key to good sex. I defy anyone not to at least enjoy bondage (with no domination). It is a wonderful feeling to be strapped down and made love to because you don't have to think about anything--just relax and enjoy the sensations."
Does bondage turn you on?
Send an e-mail to christi@fatalemedia.com and you may see your words published here next month!
Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex!
Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com
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