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Fatale Media Newsletter June 2003
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In This Issue:
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Happy Gay Pride!
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Dear Friend,
Nan keeps a framed photograph on her dresser. Black and white, obviously shot in the 1950s, it shows a short-haired sultry butch of indeterminate race.
A cross-dressing torch singer in Vegas and all the top spots including the Apollo Theater in New York in the 1950s and '60s, a Stonewall rebel, an open butch who "grew up hard in New Orleans, with mixed blood," Stormé is a model of self-respect.
"I don't think any of my efforts were ever wasted," she says. "I'm still out there fighting."
"When I first met Stormé," Nan says, "I thought, 'Wow, this is someone I could really learn something from.' Now I know, you can be a classy butch when you're 82."
We urge you to look around you and thank those pioneers in your community. We can't think of a better way to celebrate gay pride.
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Many of you know g-spot expert Deborah Sundahl as Fanny Fatale. In "Ask Fanny," an exclusive column created just for this newsletter, she answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.
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Dear Fanny,
Hello. Recently my girlfriend and I decided to try female ejaculation. I read a lot of information on how to do it, but it doesn't seem to be working.
I turn her on by licking her neck, chest, etc. Then she is lying on her back and I lick her clitoris until she says it feels good. After that I move my finger on her G-Spot (I know it's there 'cause she says it feels like she has to pee). Then I continue to lick her clitoris while moving my finger on her G-Spot.
She has an orgasm, but she does not ejaculate. Do I have to make her reach orgasm only by moving my finger on her G-Spot? Or is there something that I'm not doing quite right? Thank you.
Signed, M.T.
Dear M.T.,
In my new book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, I have a section on some reasons why women don't ejaculate. There are many factors like strength of the pelvic muscles, where she is at on her monthly cycle, and attitudes about letting go or fear of urinating.
Since you appear to be doing everything "right"-- 1) giving her time to warm up with lots of caresses and kisses; 2) arousing her before you play with her g-spot; 3) both of you know where her g-spot is; and 4) you are stimulating it with slow, firm movements--I'd say it's not necessarily your technique, but likely these other factors.
First, try to attempt ejaculation in the middle of her monthly cycle, when ejaculate is most profuse in most women. Check the strength of her pelvic muscles - can she clench your finger very tightly with her muscles? - as this aids the ejaculate to be expelled. If she is worried about peeing or making a mess, assure her you won't be offended, as you are experimenting anyway.
Please write me back and let me know how it is going.
Deborah
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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.
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