Speaking of masturbation, some couples forget that this can be one sexy turn-on, especially if one of you has her period or wants to try something different. So we’re bringing back a very popular sex tips column.
Masturbating side-by-side with your lover can be one of the sexiest entrees to lovemaking or a just a great way to relax and enjoy each other without the pressure to perform.
You can masturbate while your partner watches, or watch as your lover masturbates. Or you can both just lie there and enjoy listening as her breathing quickens.
Some couples like to get in the mood by watching a sexy DVD. Other couples talk dirty to each other.
Use your vibrator or your hand. You can also lie on your belly and ride a pillow, which works great especially if your vibrator is plugged in and humming.
Rules or no rules? Some couples like to have set guidelines. Do you have to ask permission? Do you like being touched while you’re masturbating? If you’re not sure, just roll with it.
If your lover touches you—perhaps stroking your breast or belly, perhaps putting her hand on top of yours while you masturbate—see how you feel. Is it a pleasant sensation? Distracting? Do you like it? Talk with your lover about the experience.
If you’re shy, the best way to try masturbating with your partner is to get under the covers, turn off the lights and close your eyes. Relax and let your fantasies take you where you will. Touch yourself and let yourself feel the sensations of skin and hair. Then gradually touch yourself between your legs and explore.
Masturbating together in the shower or bathtub can be a real turn-on, too. You’ll need some lube, no doubt, so make sure you’ve got some nearby.
If you’ve got a Jacuzzi, hot tub or sauna, position yourself over one of those jets of water and tease your lover by masturbating for her. She can choose to just watch or please herself over another water jet.
Most of all, have fun! If it’s not fun, then there’s no sense continuing. Instead, ask your lover for what you want. Talk to her. Find out what’s holding her back or why she doesn’t like to see you masturbate.
For a sexy side-by-side masturbation scene with Nina Hartley and Pepper (Miss Sharon Mitchell stars as well), check out Suburban Dykes, still one of Fatale’s faves and a classic.
“The U-Haul” by Shar Rednour
Wednesday, July 15th, 2009A couple of my other friends, though, are doing THE MOVE-IN. The big one, with lovers. Cue: the U-haul joke.
Frankly, I’m a Libra—we aren’t the Cancer nesters, but dang it we love love and it’s so-o-o-o-o romantic for us to move in with a lover. I of course never want to unpack. The whole thing scares me and discombobulates me. I frantically open the Champagne that’s meant for celebration later and walk around in circles staring at boxes and getting more and more confused until I end up in a full nervous breakdown, at which point said lover realizes it’s her job to make passionate love to me to make me forget my worries.
(The problem is inevitably that I have more stuff than I have containing objects like dressers. I guess I need to grow up and pay for dressers instead of just finding them on Big Trash day. I digress. That’s either a Planet Green column or an HGTV piece, depending on which way you go.)
People get really intense when moving. Either you are not sentimental and you can throw random items like your shampoo, dildo and incense all into the same box without a thought. Or you are the opposite and every item that you pick up requires a judgment on your entire life: Is this Mustang Ranch coffee cup the first cup that her lips touched in my house? If you sell it in the garage sale does it mean she is nothing to you?
You would be surprised how many dykes told me that they too had had a huge Ex fight regarding the couch or other moving day extremes. Do we all owe Ex sex to anyone who carried found furniture home for us? And is it okay for the Ex to court and even fuck on that shared couch? Where is the line between slime-bag dog and utilitarian dyke?
Well, everyone does not break up after the move-in. An oldie but goodie, Suburban Dykes shows us how the serious moved-in lovers keep it hot and real.
Listen, if butch Sharon showed up at my door I would stay married forever to my woman who ordered her up. And that’s that. The hot sex, real chemistry and gorgeous pussy shots in Surburban Dykes makes this a flick that will always stand the test of time. Just like a good move-in!
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S.I.R. Video producer and director Shar Rednour is best known for directing Bend Over Boyfriend, Bend Over Boyfriend 2 , Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels, Sugar High Glitter City and Talk to Me Baby.
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