Fatale Media Blog

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.

Deborah,
I first heard about you listening to the Playboy radio channel. You are absolutely gorgeous. My wife and I are 56 and the loving feeling is gone. She has gone through menopause and does not care about sex. She says I can have her if I want to, but I want her to want it not just to feel sorry for me. Can you recommend something to help? She doesn’t want to take hormones and I’m wondering if any of your specialties could help.

Jim
Arizona
 
 
Dear Jim,
In a nutshell, once women reach menopause, most do not want the standard fare that they have had all their life–sex that is rather like sport sex. Women after menopause do not lose their libido, they lose their desire for this kind of sex and want far more loving, connective and energetic intercourse with a man who expresses his love for her.
 
This time of life for you both can be so loving and close, as the sex moves from sex to lovemaking. Women like your wife often do not realize there is more for them. I don’t hear you talk about love, so perhaps that isn’t there for you either, in your own heart? 
 
The G-spot, as I may or may not have said on the radio, is all about love. Gateway to deeper love and intimacy. The first step is for her to understand and awaken her G-spot on her own! She has to want to. You can’t do it for her, like many men want and like many woman think the knight will ride in and save the day. 
 
And you must awaken your own G-spot too, so visit the Aneros site, get yourself a toy, and start opening up your own sexuality for your next phase of life. It will be the best “sex” you have ever experienced throughout your entire body, and it will be gentle on an aging body, as well.
 
I will send my workshop announcement to you.  Please read it, as you will get the drift of where I am going with the G-spot, when I talk about love and aging.
 
Deborah

To see more about Deborah Sundahl’s female-ejaculation and G-spot workshops, check out her Web site: www.isismedia.org.

She is hosting a 3-day “Feminine Fountain Workshop” for women only, September 24-26, 2010, in Palm Coast, Florida. The registration deadline has been extended to September 15, 2010.

If you can’t attend one of Deborah’s very popular workshops, we recommend her female ejaculation DVDs, in particular Female Ejaculation: The Workshop and Female Ejaculation for Couples .