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G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

Hi Fanny,
I started ejaculating about a year ago, but only while I was masturbating, and then it was about an ounce of odorless clear liquid, always from clitoral stimulation.

Now, my girlfriend and I have been together for almost two months, and I am having prolonged, intense orgasms accompanied by, literally, cups of ejaculate fluid. I would say four ounces per ejaculation, and I can do it as many times as she stimulates me. It could probably be up to twenty ounces or more per session.

It’s great that it’s so intense, and I feel kind of lucky, but also pretty embarrassed when we’re in the middle of getting it on and suddenly, we’re in a lake. She’s not grossed out at all by this and is really, really supportive. It was hot at first, but it’s getting kind of ridiculous. Now, almost any kind of stimulation from her gets me wet and makes me come, hard. I’m starting to wonder if this is highly unusual or unhealthy in some way.

I could really use any kind of advice in how to minimize ejaculation (and hold onto the orgasms if possible) without having to invest in a kiddie pool. If not, are there products out there to control the level of messiness involved?

Thanks,
Betsy Wetsy

Dear Betsy,
Once some women learn how to ejaculate, it is a shock for them at how much, and how easily, the ejaculate can flow out! The fact that you used the words “embarrassed” and “supportive” suggests to me that you are still not quite comfortable with your ability to ejaculate, and/or sharing it with another. I suspect that this is the underlying reason why you are concerned with the amount, or if you are hurting your health in some way.

There is nothing wrong at all with feeling a bit shy about being able to ejaculate so profusely, as you are doing with your new honey. More than that, I suspect you are ejaculating so much because of your new relationship! Many women ejaculate easily with someone new whom they really feel comfortable with and who they really like a lot. The reverse is true as well; women who are not that happy in their relationship sometimes stop ejaculating for a while, or do a less amount.

It is not easy to express your gushing self so easily in front of someone new, and so please give yourself a pat on the back for allowing it and not clamping down on everything!

So, you have things to celebrate, girl! A full and flowing ability to ejaculate, and a wonderful new love in your life! You can learn to control your ejaculate a little bit, but I really don’t recommend that for you at this stage. You have just learned to open the floodgates, and it appears to have brought you a wonderful lover. So, just enjoy for now…let nature take its course, as it most assuredly will.

Meanwhile, the best and only thing I can suggest for the bed is the wonderful, plush throw by Liberator. Please check it out through my site.

But most of all, get out of the bed, grrrl! Spring is here, go out to the garden and water the plants! Do it in the shower, on the tile floor! Let it rip. Love your Wild Woman Self! Be a “Woman Who Runs with the Water”!

Deborah

To learn how to female ejaculate, check out Deborah’s DVD How to Female Ejaculate.