New Poll: Naughty or Nice?

December 1st, 2015

Naughty or nice?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Last month, we asked if anal sex is your favorite kind of sex. Moods prevail!

See the results!

This month, we ask:

Now that the holidays are here, are you naughty or nice?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page and 100% anonymous.

Till next time, we wish you fabulous sex.

Happy Holidays!

Nan and Christi
FataleMedia.com

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Happy Thanksgiving!

November 25th, 2015

Happy Thanksgiving

 

Happy Thanksgiving, friends! We’ll be cooking tomorrow and having a good time. See you soon!

Ask Fanny: Is My Girlfriend Having Orgasms?

November 13th, 2015

Deborah Sundahl G-spot expertG-spot and female ejaculation expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and G-spot orgasms. She is the author of Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, 2nd Revised Edition.

Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

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Dear Fanny,
I have an amazing girlfriend (I am a guy). When I start licking her pussy, after a minute she squirts, and then shortly thereafter, she will squirt again, and even a third time and fourth.

She speaks very little English, so communication is somewhat a problem. Only the very basic things can we communicate about.

So I will ask you, is she having orgasms?

Charlie

 

Dear Charlie,

Guess what!  Orgasms and ejaculation—in both women and men—are two separate functions. Ejaculation is a release of fluid, and an orgasm is, well, an orgasm.

Some women ejaculate small amounts with very little stimulation. Some women ejaculate small amounts just pushing out their pelvic floor muscles. So, your girlfriend is normal.

How to get her to build and release a lot of ejaculate? Intercourse from behind with slow and steady movements, removing your penis when you feel her pelvic muscles try to push your penis out of her vagina. Why? Because she is trying to ejaculate all over you!

Have fun and let it flow!
Fanny

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Check out the Ask Fanny article here at Fatale’s blog, “Is She Ready to Have a Squirting Orgasm?”

For more detailed information, check out Female Ejaculation for Couples, a great starter DVD guide to learning about and having G-spot orgasms!

The all-new gift set G-Spot ABCs gives you free shipping and an array of G-spot and female ejaculation resources from G-spot expert and sex educator Deborah Sundahl.

Holiday Shipping Schedule 2015

November 13th, 2015

Free Gift-Wrapping and Free Gift Cards from Fatale MediaIt’s not too early to plan your holiday shipping, especially if you send gifts overseas or have your own order sent outside the U.S.

Inside the U.S., you get free Priority Mail shipping when you order 3 or more DVDs.

What else?
–Free, personalized gift cards on nice gift cards
–Low, low, low shipping costs and “at-cost” shipping outside the U.S.
–Overnight and 2-Day Air available
–All orders ship within 24 hours or one business day.

No waiting, no being made to wait in the “free shipping” slow lane. When you order from Fatale, you get the best customer service available.

Plus, your satisfaction is 100% guaranteed.

See the holiday shipping schedule now and start planning your holiday orders!

Best wishes,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Check out the all-new gift sets at Fatale! For a surefire winning gift, order the Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set.

P.P.S. See what LesbianLife.About.com calls “the best lesbian porn.”

New Poll: Is this your favorite kind of sex?

November 2nd, 2015

Favorite

Last month, we did a quickie Halloween poll, asking if you dressed up sexy! Why, the answer may surprise you.

See the results!

Now, we want to know:

Is anal sex your favorite kind of sex?

Maybe it depends on your mood?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page and 100% anonymous.

Till next time, we wish you fabulous sex.

Nan and Christi
FataleMedia.com

P.S. Buy any three DVDs and you get free shipping! Shop now!

P.P.S. See what what LesbianLife.About.com calls “the best lesbian porn.”

New Poll: Sexy Halloween?

October 23rd, 2015

sexy Halloween

Halloween is fast approaching, so we thought we’d post a new poll:

Do you wear a sexy costume at Halloween?

Vote now!

The new poll is on Fatale’s home page and 100% anonymous.

If you’ve got pictures of your sexy Halloween costume, post them to Fatale’s Facebook page! Show off your sexy self!

Get some ideas from our Pinterest board, Sexy Halloween.

Until next time,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. Check out one of our fave costume-sex vids is 50 Shades of Dylan Ryan, winner of the Feminist Porn Award for Hottest Kink Movie.

P.P.S. See what what LesbianLife.About.com calls “the best lesbian porn.”

In Memoriam: Honey Lee Cottrell

October 9th, 2015
“Coastbound Train Rachel and Elexis"

“Coastbound Train, Rachael and Elexis,” 1985. Image by Honey Lee Cottrell. Among her well-known photographs is this powerful image of Rachael Williams (the first Ms. Leather) and Elexis that first appeared in On Our Backs.

You may have known Honey Lee Cottrell. For sure you know her life’s work as a photographer and cinematographer.

Honey Lee Cottrell passed away on September 21, 2015, of pancreatic cancer. She was 69. We lost a friend and compatriot of Nan’s from  the early days of On Our Backs and Fatale Video. She was one of the “core four” at On Our Backs, along with Nan, Deborah Sundahl and Susie Bright.

Deborah Sundahl wrote of Honey Lee: “The most influential photographer of the 1980s and ’90s in her innovative and original representation of lesbian sexuality. Her specialty was articulating the butch-femme of the 1950s for a new era of lesbians.”

Honey Lee filmed Clips, which featured “the first-ever-seen-on-screen authentic female ejaculation. Nan said, “She was right where she needed to be to get that shot, strong and steady to capture the event.” What an historic event it was, too.

Honey Lee was a force behind the scenes at Fatale and lesbian pornography. She chronicled the world of lesbian sexuality at On Our Backs, Fatale Video and beyond. Her subjects were open and honest with her, gazing directly into the camera’s lens.

What writers and academics refer to as “the lesbian gaze,” Honey Lee personified in her work. Her images were published in books and journals and shown in exhibitions and shows. Her work is archived at the Human Sexuality Collection at Cornell University. (Read the whole obituary, written by Brenda Marston of Cornell University, here.)

Self portrait.  2009.  Image by Honey Lee Cottrell

Self portrait. 2009. Image by Honey Lee Cottrell

 

We’ll let Honey Lee have the last word:

“The lesbian gaze meant that there was a contemplation,” she said, “a restraint, a sincerity and a warrior-quality. This lesbian look was compelling. While your heterosexual woman model might compel the rest of the world to look at her, a lesbian was addressing you.”

Until next time,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. You can see Honey Lee’s work in Clips and some of her photos on Fatale Media’s Pinterest boards. Kitty Tsui, Honey Lee with tux and oar, as well as some others.

Honey Lee Cottrell: A Life

October 8th, 2015

The following is the obituary of Honey Lee Cottrell written by Brenda J. Marston of the Human Sexuality Collection, Cornell University.

 

Honey Lee Cottrell

Honey Lee Cottrell. 1978. Image by Tee Corinne.

Honey Lee Cottrell, a visionary photographer and filmmaker who pioneered lesbian erotica in the 1980s through her contributions to the women’s sex magazine On Our Backs, died on Monday, Sept. 21, of pancreatic cancer.

Cottrell revolutionized the female nude, validated women’s right to pleasure, and opened possibilities for women to see themselves and their desires in new ways through her engagement in a variety of feminist, artistic, and sex education projects. She studied at the National Sex Forum and was a member of San Francisco Sex Information in the 1970s. She co-authored I Am My Lover, a 1978 feminist book celebrating masturbation that she created with Joani Blank and Tee Corinne. She was an early member of the Lesbian and Gay History Project, founded in late 1978 in San Francisco.

In 1981, Honey Lee received a BA in film studies from San Francisco State University. She was director and camera for Sweet Dreams starring Pat Califia (National Sex Forum, 1980), and from 1985 to the early 90s, a cinematographer for Fatale Video, the first lesbian-created erotic movie company.

She was one of the “core four,” along with Debi Sundahl, Nan Kinney, and Susie Bright, who gave On Our Backs its style and success. When it started in 1984, she proposed a “Bulldagger of the Month” centerfold for the first issue. She explained that the idea was “to stand this Playboy centerfold idea on its head from, I would say, a feminist perspective… what would I do if I was a centerfold and how can I reflect back to them our values?” Her idea was not to be “the regular kind of centerfold, but something that will make a difference, shake people up, show the other side of the mirror.” Cottrell was a contributing photographer to On Our Backs for seven years.

She photographed her lovers and friends and documented queer and kink cultures for decades with her first camera, a 35 mm Nikkormat. She was exacting and precise in the photographs and collages she created, as well as in her dark room work. She studied with Ruth Bernhard, who invited Cottrell to be her printer. In addition to I Am My Lover and On Our Backs, her still photography has appeared in publications including The Blatant Image, Coming to Power, Sinister Wisdom, and Nothing But the Girl. Her exhibitions include shows at 848 Community Space in San Francisco, the Bacchanal in Albany, California, The Gay and Lesbian Historical Society of Northern California (now known as the GLBT Historical Society), the NAME gallery in Chicago, and her images were part of Cornell University’s Speaking of Sex exhibition.

“The lesbian gaze meant that there was a contemplation,” she said, “a restraint, a sincerity and a warrior-quality. This lesbian look was compelling. While your heterosexual woman model might compel the rest of the world to look at her, a lesbian was addressing you.”

 Born in Astoria, Oregon, on January 16, 1946, the oldest of two children, she grew up in Michigan. After completing a year at Michigan State University in 1964-65, Honey Lee worked for at the Technicolor photo processing lab. As she later discovered, a number of lesbians were working there, having discovered it was a fairly safe place for butch women to work. Honey Lee was invited to visit one of these women, Harriet DeVito, who had moved to New York City, and then ended up driving across country with her to California in 1966. Along the way, Honey Lee discovered what her feelings for women meant to her, and Harriet became her first lover.

Once she arrived in San Francisco, she made it her home and became deeply involved in the creative lesbian community of artists, photographers, and film-makers in the Bay Area, as well as the progressive sex education activists. She opened her apartment on Bessie Street to friends and artists, helping find jobs and shelter for people in need.

To support her artistic work, Cottrell worked in two unions. As a member of the Marine Cooks and Stewards, she was able to fulfill her dream of travel to South Pacific where her father Duane Cottrell had served in WWII. She worked as a banquet waiter in Hotel and Restaurant Employees Union in the 1980s and 90s, retiring in 2012. A proud union member, she walked many a picket line protesting the mistreatment of workers especially recent immigrant populations working as room cleaners at San Francisco hotels.

Gayle Rubin, anthropologist and theorist of sex and gender politics, says that Honey Lee:

“was never someone who put herself out front … she was more of a quiet observer, but a persistently potent presence. She had a kind of strength and solidity that seemed to anchor things around her; as if she provided the gravity that held various circling planets in their stable orbits. And she just kept generating images, events, relationships, connections.”

She loved the outdoors and studied herbal medicine, native plants, and botany. With this perspective and perhaps with her photographer’s training to notice interesting small moments of daily life, she went through her illness and death with a combination of butch swagger and serenity, a confidence that everything would be alright. She continued to direct photo shoots and art installations, and found delights in each changing day. Two weeks before her death, she had the energy one day for a road trip, lunch at a favorite Middle Eastern deli with longtime and new friends, and a walk in the redwoods. No one was surprised that she crawled under “Caution” tape and a Do Not Enter sign to get to her favorite tree, a spot she had often brought her daughter Aretha Bright.

Past lovers and family members came to visit Honey in her last 40 days, and she died at peace in her home in Santa Cruz. She is survived by her mother Patricia Cottrell, brother Michael Cottrell, and daughter Aretha Bright— and her life companions Melinda Gebbe, Amber Hollibaugh, and Susie Bright.  Her papers will be cared for by the Cornell University Library Human Sexuality Collection, which will also address any questions about Cottrell’s life and work. Please direct condolences to her family at:

Mike, Judiebell, and Pat Cottrell, 3508 Greenwood Dr., Hermitage, TN 37076

Aretha Bright, POB 895, Santa Cruz, CA 95061

Susie Bright and Jon Bailiff, POB 8377, Santa Cruz, CA 95061
I declare

That later on,

Even in an age unlike our own,

Someone will remember who we are.

Sappho

 

Cottrell’s artist statement: https://www.cla.purdue.edu/waaw/corinne/Cottrell.htm

Guide to the first part of her archives: http://rmc.library.cornell.edu/EAD/htmldocs/RMM07822.html

Sept. 6, 2015 Recording: https://youtu.be/o30jpQIwcBw

 

New Poll: Kegel Muscles?

October 1st, 2015

Female Ejaculation for Couples

 

 

 

 

 

Last month, we wondered if you like doing it on your knees. What a lot of spring chickens! Only one person voted for this…

See the results!

This month, we wondered:

Do you exercise your Kegel muscles?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page and 100% anonymous.

Till next time, we wish you fabulous sex.

Nan and Christi
FataleMedia.com

P.S. Curious what Kegel muscles are? Start here.

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A Picture Is Worth…

September 19th, 2015

Candida Royalle

Summer is over here in the Northern Hemisphere, and autumn beckons. Recently a much admired and well-loved feminist pioneer friend and colleague of ours died.

Candida Royalle, many of you know, was the visionary feminist pornographer who pioneered what became “couples porn,” which could be part of the mainstream. As Nan wrote in her sweet and moving column, “Remembering Candida,” Candida’s goal was always “to open up the mainstream porn market to porn made by women for women. And she achieved that goal.”

We posted a nice pic of Candida in the blog piece  and on Fatale’s Facebook page. One classy lady!

Fatale Media on Pinterest

 

 

Speaking of pictures, do come on over and follow us on Pinterest. Some of our boards include “Lesbians We Love,” “Femme Thrills,” “Dyke Pride,” “Butch” and more.

If you’re not familiar with Pinterest, think of it as a social media website with lots of bulletin boards where you can “pin” your pictures. It’s fun. Come join us!

Until next time,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

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P.P.S. See all Fatale’s cool videos, including the new My Best Friend’s Perfect Pussy.