When it comes right down to talking, and talking sexy, to a potential new girlfriend, try these seven tips:
1. Think flirting. Don’t push the “I’m so sexy” persona unless you want to risk turning her off. Keep it light.
2. Ask about her, then listen. What does she like to do when she goes out? What’s the sexiest party she ever went to? When you get to know her better, ask her if she’s ever thought about role-playing, or if she likes to talk dirty in bed.
3. Eavesdrop, then pick up on her conversations. If you overhear her talking to her girlfriends or other friends (and this applies to her Facebook and Twitter postings too, for assessing her interests), pick up on what she’s saying, and how she’s saying it. Is she cooing away about a new pair of high heels? You know enough to ask which new style she likes best.
4. Timing makes a difference. You can eavesdrop, but don’t bust in on her conversations. Wait till there’s an opening, then talk to her.
5. Don’t ignore her friends. If you’re in a public or even semi-private place, include her friends in the conversation. Even if you’ve only got eyes for her, how you treat her friends reflects on your character.
6. Tongue-tied? Admit it. Say, “I’m usually kind of shy,” then ask to buy her a drink or coffee. As long as your timing is good, most people won’t say no.
7. Want to talk dirty? Tell her she’s sexy, and tell her exactly what you want to do with her once you’re in bed.
There are lots of ways to talk to women, and to engage them socially. Getting up the nerve is the hard part. Talking comes naturally once you relax. Flirting with her opens you up to talking dirty in bed and on the phone.
We owe a nod of thanks to Nick Savoy’s Love Systems for ideas that informed this article.
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The V Word
September 21st, 2012“Female sexuality around the world is targeted because through traumatizing the vagina, you can intimidate women on multiple other levels,” writes Naomi Wolf, author of a new book called Vagina: A New Biography.
Wolf’s article, “Kate’s breasts, Pussy Riot, virginity tests and our attitude on women’s bodies,” was published this week on CNN.com.
We don’t 100% agree with Wolf about porn—Porn 24/7, as she calls it. But we do agree with her in general about women’s bodies and sexuality. She writes:
The censorship by Apple iTunes, as noted in an article in The Guardian, was shocking enough. Adding asterisks so that the word vagina reads v****a.
We see actions the world over suppressing women’s sexuality and sexual expression.
Still and all, Jennifer Hough, writing in the Toronto Star, says “the widespread activism” about the trial and sentencing of Pussy Riot “suggests these young Russian dissidents are giving the movement new impetus, perhaps even tweaking feminism for a new generation.”
Why does women’s sexuality matter? Why does women’s porn matter? We say: It’s about control. Who controls women’s bodies and sexuality matters.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
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