G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.
This issue, Deborah is on vacation, so we thought we’d dig into the archives and recap Deborah’s most popular “Ask Fanny” columns:
Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.
Be sure to check out Deborah’s How to Female Ejaculate DVD for more information this important subject for all women.
You can comment on any story in the newsletter. You should still feel free to e-mail us, but we encourage you to share your stories and experiences with others at the blog.
In last month’s poll, we asked: What do you most want to get for the holidays this year?
The top three answers:
1. Porn DVDs
2. Strap-on harness
3. Anal butt plug
This month we ask: When do you wear sexy lingerie?
Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.
And we’ll give you the results next month.
Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex.
Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com
Sex is about giving. Whether it’s a one-night stand you just met at the bar or coffeehouse or your lover of dozens of years, if you don’t give, and learn to give, there’s no spice. Gratification comes in many forms.
Nan and Deborah founded On Our Backs in 1984 with the idea that the lesbian community had no porn for itself. In 1985 they spun off Fatale, then called Fatale Videos, now morphed into Fatale Media. You know this. But the original impulse was to give images of ourselves to the lesbian community.
(To read Cory Silverberg’s recent interview with Nan about Fatale, check out About.com.)
When the inimitable Shar Rednour came to Nan and said, “We’ve got to make this video…I want to call it Bend Over Boyfriend,” Nan said, “Absolutely!” Why shouldn’t the straight community have alternative images of themselves and what they really do in bed?
Each year at this time, we decide where to make a donation to organizations that make a difference in the world. This year, we’ll give donations to three, but one in particular we wanted to tell you about.
The Free Speech Coalition was founded in 1991 as the U.S. government tried harder and harder to shut down the adult industry. The Free Speech Coalition has been an industry godsend for Fatale, watching and monitoring the U.S. government regarding any attempts to close down purveyors of adult material; lobbying the U.S. government; fostering public communication and education; and when the need arises, going to court.
It wouldn’t be wrong to say that without the Free Speech Coalition, we wouldn’t be able to keep making porn and giving real images to the community—images of who we are and what we really do in bed. So for that, we are grateful.
Oh, and not to get too heavy here, we’ve also got a long list of goodies just for friends and family. Top of the list? Christi’s sister and her girlfriend are getting Shine Louise Houston’s The Crash Pad.
Tell us what you’re giving this year. You can comment here.
Happy Holidays!
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
Fatale offers lots of creative solutions to your gift-giving needs.
• Free shipping in the U.S. when you buy any three items
• Free gift-wrapping
• Free gift cards
Mix and match for all your friends!
G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.
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Dear Fanny,
Since I turned 30 I’ve ejaculated a lot–maybe my previous girlfriends didn’t quite know how to reach my G-Spot–but sometimes it just doesn’t happen even when I masturbate. Is it possible female ejaculation is related to my cycle? When I can’t ejaculate it’s usually around my period.
Thank you for your good work!
A fan
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Dear Fan,
Female ejaculation doesn’t always happen for various reasons. A menstrual cycle could be one reason, but usually female ejaculation is mostly plentiful around the time of a woman’s period. It could be you unconsciously hold back during your period due to too much fluid being released from your body.
Another is the physical position women are lying in. Notice what position you are in when you do and don’t ejaculate. Another reason could be the sex toy or fingers… notice if you ejaculate when they are out of your vagina and if you don’t ejaculate when they are in your vagina.
Female ejaculate flows most easily when there is no expectation.
Rarely does any woman ejaculate all the time. I suggest letting go of having to ejaculate. We don’t want to put any kind of performance pressure on something that is inherently—at its source—an expression of love and joy. Better to spend the time self-pleasuring as a chance to love yourself, and let nature take its course.
Fanny
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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.
You may have noticed that you can now comment on any story in the newsletter. You should still feel free to e-mail us, but we encourage you to share your stories and experiences with others at the blog.
In last month’s poll, we asked: Do you like spanking during sex?
We got totally called out on this one and added an option, because some of you—a lot of you—like spanking and getting spanked.
This month we ask: What do you most want to get for the holidays this year?
Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.
And we’ll give you the results next month.
Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex.
Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com
More than a few people have asked what Fatale’s bestsellers are, so we thought we’d give you the top-five rundown. Thanks to Nan for tallying the numbers, making this list and checking it twice.
1. Bend Over Boyfriend
By far the #1 instructional video on how to pleasure your guy from behind
2. Bend Over Boyfriend 2
The hard-driving sequel to the BOB with “more rockin’, less talkin’”
3. Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels (double DVD)
Handsome butch dykes and sultry high femmes in one of our faves from Shar and Jackie of S.I.R. Video
4. Special Delivery
Carolyn Caizzi’s latest offering…and the dreaming fantasies of a dyke sex-shop worker
5. Afterschool Special and Turn Me Up Over and On (double DVD)
Winners of Fatale’s Real Lesbian Sex amateur lesbian video contest.
Want to see more? Check out all Fatale’s videos at www.fatalemedia.com.
Don’t forget to vote in the November Spanking Poll. We added one more option, per your comments, the “switch” option.
Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page: www.fatalemedia.com.
And we’ll give you the results on December 1st in the next regular newsletter.
Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex.
Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com
Sex parties or play parties even today are usually still quiet affairs…meaning you don’t advertise, you don’t tell your neighbors, you don’t tell all your friends.
If you want to host a sex party, remember to provide plenty of room for sex play and space too for downtime. Be selective about who you invite and determine your own rules, but don’t make too many rules that will stifle spontaneity.
As at any party, you provide the food and drink. It’s a good idea to buy extra lube and condoms, but your guests should bring their own toys. Turn the heat up if it’s cold outside. You don’t want to see your guests freezing and covered with goose bumps as they try to get in the mood for sex. (more…)
Spanking
Thursday, November 1st, 2007What is it about spanking that is so deliciously titillating? Certainly spanking—like a lot of previously taboo delights—has come out of the closet. There are Web sites and Web communities and blogs dedicated solely to this new old art.
One of our favorite sites is Vintage Spank. Old photos of women getting spanked by other women, in a variety of settings, hint at the lesbian liaisons to come. The women are for the most part dressed, too, another titillation. What lies underneath? The stages are set so that you can’t help but make up your own stories about the players, the spanked and the spanker.
The lesbians in our movies delight in spanking—as a tease and prelude to sex in Turn Me Up Over and On, as role-playing “punishment” or just giggly fun in Full Load.
Spanking is fun! Let’s admit it. And in the right setting, spanking can make you feel like you’re on fire…and not just your bottom!
What do you think? You can comment here.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
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