Fatale Media Blog

By Shar Rednour

As we head into Pride weekends over the summer, you are no doubt going to be seeing a lot of queer folk in fetish wear. Here in San Francisco we see it all from grown men in fuzzy Pan suits (that’s the pagan Pan) to the typical chaps with some hot asses (hopefully) in full sight. Don’t forget that this isn’t just a fashion statement but related to sexual fetishes.

Do you dream of a motorcycle babe throwing you on her throbbing ride and throttling you away? Do you actually masturbate to the image? If you watch my movies or read my writing you will know that I am pretty obvious in my fetishes: shoes, feet, hands…more hands. I particularly love to indulge others in their fetishes as well doing eyeglass photo shoots, public sex and more. All with photographer artist Phyllis Christopher, www.thesexystuff.com.

At SIR Productions, we worked together as well. She’s in our outtakes in Talk to Me Baby; she’s in the beginning of How to F*ck in High Heels as well. But my fetishes are not fakes on film. Our fetishy, fantasy-filled orgasms inspired our work to the degree of obsession.

So how about you? Do you really have a fetish? Let’s find out with my handy quiz.

When you jill-off do you think of:

a) Two or even three bodies rubbing together in some sex act?
b) Being tied up with panty hose shoved in your mouth as someone tickles your knees?
c) Being forced to eat a cupcake while Babes-o-rama plow you from behind?
d) Forcing your gal to eat a cupcake while you plow her from behind?
e) I can’t answer right now, Shar. There is a stiletto heel against my temple and I am about to cum. Talk to ya later.

I get most turned on by:

a) The thought of genuine lovemaking and a good orgasm.
b) Titties bouncing.
c) Sniffing dyke hands.
d) Staring at dyke hands…then screaming wildly when they touch my high heels.
e) Sticking my toes in pudding. Butterscotch pudding.

I’m embarrassed to admit that:

a) It’s not only guys buying those naked aerobic videos.
b) There’s nothing wrong with women in headbands (did I mention ’80s naked aerobic videos?).
c) I wish my lover wore a dirty jock strap and talked about locker rooms.

PARTY GAMES

Last but not least no Summer of Pride is complete without party games. Try this one.

Guess My Fetish! This is more fun than it sounds. It’s kind of a group Newlyweds game. Each person has to write her own fetish on a card and keep it hidden so no one can see. Then take turns when as a group you debate what each person’s fetish is. Finally, pick as a group (this makes it fun because you have to argue with each other like Family Feud and make a group decision for your bet on her fetish). Then do the reveal to see who’s right. Pick what your loser–either the trusting lesbian or the misguided group –has to do: drinks, kiss, shows their tits, you know your peeps. Pick something good.

Pin the Feather on the Fetish

Hang up pictures on the wall of items to represent typical fetishes such as a woman’s legs, breasts, high heels, work boots, eyeglasses, leather and lace, boxer shorts, hot hands, armpits, etc.

Blindfold your lucky contestant. Turn her in circles and give a feather with sticky tape on the end. Wherever she sticks it is the fetish she has to try. Either just thinking about it while masturbating or doing it with a lover. Of course you can have a “tryout” closet ready at the party and take down the results onsite if you wish!

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So, what’s your fetish?

To see the gorgeous femme Shar Rednour in action, check out Hard Love and How to F*ck in High Heels and Sugar High Glitter City. (more…)

Watching The Crash Pad Series Volume 3, this beautiful sex act is as relevant as ever. Not one scene goes by in the new Shine Louise Houston DVD without a good dose of the time-honored staple of dyke sex.

So on that note, we’re reposting this Sex Tips piece, which was originally published in the June 2006 newsletter.

Straight folks: If you haven’t tried it, don’t knock it.

Straight gals: Check out Bend Over Boyfriend for how to finger-fuck your boyfriend.

When we were younger, much younger, finger fucking could upon occasion produce major anxiety—were our nails clipped just so, no hangnails or raspy edges? Would she like it? Should we use a condom? Were there such things as “finger condoms”?

After exploring dozens if not hundreds of lesbian bodies, finger fucking seems as natural as kissing.

One of the best ways to get started is to go down on your girlfriend and lick her good. After she’s wet and open to you, gently ease your finger inside.

If you find you need some lube, the bottle should be next to the bed where you put it before you got all hot and horny with your girlfriend.

Slowly explore the ridges—feel her G spot just inside and along the roof of her vagina? Don’t press it at this point, but if she’s bucking like a rodeo horse, go for it!

As she begins to respond to your finger inside her, you can quit with the cunnilingus—your neck is probably stiff by now anyway—and move up alongside her, and keep stroking her with one finger. You’ll find your rhythm.

Slide a second finger inside. She’ll let you know if she’s open to it. You can try a third finger too, but often, one or two fingers do the trick.

By now you may really need the lube, or not. If she’s wet enough, you may not.

(More sex tips about fisting.)

Many lesbians view finger fucking as a prelude to “real sex” with a strap-on dildo. But it can also be the finger-fucking that brings her right to her first orgasm.

If she likes to have multiple orgasms, then consider more stroking with your fingers or donning your strap-on.

We’re assuming here that you’re both lying down, but try sitting up behind her. You can play with her breasts and nipples, stroke the inside of her thighs and get off on feeling her leaning up against you.

Finger fucking her doggy-style—an act you probably like a lot—is another way to reach her G spot and let her spew.

Just remember: Don’t ram her too hard. Your fingers should be loosely curled around to her natural shape.

You can also ask her if she likes it. Be willing to ease up a little and look at her face, kiss her. Is she enjoying herself?

If you’re the one getting finger fucked, remember to talk to your partner and let her know what you like and what you don’t. You can just say, “That hurts” or “Too hard” or “Harder.”

You can also guide your partner’s hand toward or away from your vagina. Take her wrist and push or pull her where you want her.

You can also finger fuck each other at the same time, a delightful experience if you like mutual, concurrent sex.

What’s your advice? Post a comment here.