Archive for the ‘Sex Commentary’ Category

Wet Fun in the Summertime

Friday, August 1st, 2008

Vacations are a great time to experiment with your lover and try new things. Face it: You’re relaxed and happy and not strapped to your workload. When all defenses are down, then you can open up and enjoy. Orgasms you never thought were in you are free to come gushing out.

If you’re on your way out of town—to the beach or mountains or an island spa—or even if you’re just staying home this year, here are some suggestions to break out of the same-old, same-old mold.

  • Get out of the bedroom. Especially if you’re on vacation, try the porch or veranda at night. And if you’ve never tried it, the bathtub can be fun. Even the laundry room has potential.
  • Full Load lesbian DVD

  • Get out of the house. Romance your lover with a picnic just for two…or head to your local nightclub and find a dark corner.
  • Reverse your roles. Never strapped on a dildo? Go for it, girlfriend. Always wanted to bend over your boyfriend? Get some more rockin’ inspiration with BOB2.
  • Put on a show. Masturbate for your sweetie, or put on some sexy music and dance.
  • Fulfill your deepest fantasy. Pick up a girl and try a threesome. We love the threeway in Shine Louise Houston’s In Search of the Wild Kingdom. A blast! 

What do you think? What new positions or sex tricks have you tried lately? Click “Post a comment” and tell us!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Sexy Senior Moments

Tuesday, July 15th, 2008

We were heartened to read an article the other day in the Washington Post, “Seniors Having More Sex Than Ever” by Alan Mozes.

The senior set—those men and women in their late sixties, seventies and beyond—have increased not only the frequency of sex, but also the quality of their couplings, according to a Swedish study. This study has been ongoing for 30 years, so there’s a strong basis for comparison.

“Women seemed to make the most headway in terms of increasing their sexual satisfaction,” according to the article. While the study doesn’t go into the whys of this newfound satisfaction, we can take a stab at why women are more satisfied.

For one thing, much more information is out there about female ejaculation and the role of the G-spot in spurring women’s satisfaction. Educators like Deborah Sundahl have been teaching women old and young how to find their g-spots.

Couples, we’ve found, are more adventurous, too. Bend Over Boyfriend, now celebrating its 10th anniversary, has worked for tens of thousands of couples who want to spice up their sex lives.

Gone are the days when men had no options for increasing their virility, and gone are the days when widows and married women just didn’t feel like it. We say kudos to those sexy seniors!

Now, if only next time they’d talk to senior lesbians and gay men. We bet there’d be some real “senior moments” from the queer set!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Honoring Gay Pride

Monday, June 2nd, 2008

Gay Pride Special – 10% Off

Recently, someone asked us, “What’s Stonewall?” It was a fair question. This curious soul hadn’t yet been born when the raids in New York City’s Greenwich Village came to a head one late June night in 1969 at the Stonewall Inn just off Sheridan Square. Thirteen men were arrested. By the next morning, hundreds of gay men and lesbians were protesting in the streets. Stonewall was the dawn of Gay Pride.

Most LGBT people remember hiding in their lives, whether as a kid in school just coming to terms with being gay, or as an adult working in corporations where a wedding ring – whether or not you’re legally married – is de rigueur. It still happens.

It takes courage to bare your sexuality to the outside world. Sometimes it takes courage to practice your sexuality at all. It takes special courage to stand up for the rights of other people to openly practice their sexuality.

So we salute those high-school students in the small town of Clovis, New Mexico, who had the courage to include gay couples in their yearbook.

We salute the courage of all the people, gay and straight, who call and write to us from all over the world where “deviant sexuality” is not tolerated – from small towns in Arkansas and Texas and Trinidad to cities in Poland and Lebanon.

We salute the California Supreme Court for overturning the ban on same-sex marriage.

In honor of those courageous acts, and in celebration of Gay Pride Month, we are pleased to offer 10% off all items at Fatale Media through the month of June. Order three or more DVDs and you get free shipping in the U.S.!

We are as committed as ever to showing sexuality in a real and positive and authentic way, and we thank you for having the courage to stand beside us.

Happy Pride!

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Spicy Couples

Thursday, May 1st, 2008

According to an article by Peter Bart in Variety and reported in the New York Times last Saturday, the porn industry, long considered recession-proof, “has suddenly gone flaccid.”

Bart cites this downturn as evidence of a really bad economic outlook in the U.S. and perhaps elsewhere.

But there’s a hidden nugget in Bart’s article that heartens us here at Fatale. Sexy movies made for couples, sometimes known as “couples-friendly” movies, are experiencing the least drop-off in sales and rentals.

That’s certainly our experience, and he notes that women comprise 50% of this market for “couples-friendly” movies.

Women are often ignored in this industry of ours. The trade magazines may give the occasional nod to independent women producers such as Annie Sprinkle and Shar Rednour.

More often we slide under the radar; couples and women find us when they’re looking to celebrate their sexuality.

Bend Over Boyfriend is by far Fatale’s number-one bestseller. It was made by and for women and couples.

Women don’t take any b.s. when it comes to sex movies. Faking it? No way. Girl-girl? Not for women who want to see real lesbians. Women’s sexuality means something.

We salute those women and spicy couples who refuse to denigrate themselves when it comes to buying sex movies that really show the depths and joy of our sexuality.

Fatale Media shows the real thing, the true celebration that we women deserve.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi

Gender Queer

Wednesday, April 16th, 2008

We received an interesting letter from a Fatale fan who asked, “Do you have DVDs that feature sex between gender-queers and/or butch women and queeny men?”

Gender queer is an interesting term that applies to transfolk, transmen, transwomen, queers, gender-benders, FTMs, MTFs and those who just plain don’t feel wedded to one gender. The appellation is usually self-determined and liberating.

We like gender queer movies and images because they’re a reflection of who we really are as a diverse, dynamic culture. Gender queer is descriptive without pinning you down to one “thing” or another. We can all be who we are without sacrificing a cultural or group identity.

When we first saw Barbara DeGenevieve’s video footage of the queers in Chicago when she was filming Full Load, we were blown away. Here were real dykes, real transfolk, real FTMs who weren’t afraid to bare it all. That takes guts.

Then along came Carolyn, who had worked with Barbara in Chicago and was striking out on her own with Turn Me Up Over and On, an amateur short with a sweet encounter between a femme and her boi.

Shine Louise Houston doesn’t hesitate to play with gender in the Crash Pad, the Crash Pad Series Volume 1 and especially in Wild Kingdom, one of our favorite porn flicks with a hot trans scene between Wil and Papi .

As for butches and queeny men, no queeny men, but hot sexy butches abound!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

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Amid Sex Scandal, Spitzer Resigns

Wednesday, March 12th, 2008

Amid a sex scandal that has New York reeling, Governor Eliot Spitzer has resigned. We were most curious about comments cited in the New York Times this week.

Governor Spitzer was called “difficult” by Temeka Lewis, one of the bookers at the Emperor’s Club. He asked the prostitutes “to do things you might not think were safe,” according to Ms. Lewis.

Kristen, the hooker in question, didn’t have a problem with the governor’s requests, though, and in fact liked him. According to the court papers, Kristen said to him, “Listen, dude, you really want the sex?”

Which got us wondering…What kind of sex did Governor Spitzer want that made it appear “difficult”? Is he a bottom? Of course it’s a stereotype, but people in positions of power, people who get off on law and order, people at the top, in our experience they like taking it lying down now and then. Maybe Kristen’s really a good dominatrix waitrix.

And then we thought, perhaps he likes it up the butt. Hmm. Is he a bend-over-boyfriend kind of guy?

What do you think? Click “Post a comment” and let us know!

Nan and Christi

The Strapon Issue

Friday, February 29th, 2008

Are strap-ons an issue? You might wonder. Since the advent of Bend Over Boyfriend, straight folks are really getting into the idea of women strapping it on for men’s anal pleasure. But lesbians and strapons go way back. (Some people spell strapon as one word; some use a hyphen.)

Each of us has a different memory of our first encounters with strapons. Femmes didn’t used to strap on at all, or hardly ever–strapons were the purview of butches–but Jackie and Shar and a whole generation of women said, “Screw that!” They’ll strap it on when and where they want to.

When Suburban Dykes was released, Miss Sharon Mitchell showed up wearing a terribly sexy strap-on, the epitome of the butch top who taught those girls a thing or two.

Are strap-ons a distraction? They can be for those who aren’t familiar or comfortable with them, but for those of us who like the sensation, the passion only increases. There’s nothing quite like a romp with that strap-on to help ease the way.

What was your first encounter with a strap-on? Tell us your story here.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Valentine’s Day Greetings

Thursday, February 14th, 2008

Not everyone loves Valentine’s Day, but for us romantics, it’s a perfect excuse to give flowers and chocolate, heart-shaped cookies decorated in red and white frosting and, of course, to exchange Valentine’s cards.

When we were kids, everyone in school made Valentine’s Day cards for their classmates. We suspect they still do, but everything changes once you’re really in love. Valentine’s Day becomes a midwinter break, and in fact the holiday was fused from the celebration of spring in Italy. (We read the whole history here at The History Channel.)

After intending to stay home and cook up a romantic dinner, we’ve now got new plans! Instead, we’ll be making our own whoopee at our favorite hotel on Valentine’s night. Surprise, surprise! This was Nan’s idea, and terribly romantic! An intimate dinner with just the two of us, some serious butch/femme flirtation, and a sexy DVD up in the room…

We’re still going to be watching Sugar High Glitter City, but we’ll also bring along Shine Louise Houston’s DVD, The Crash Pad Series Volume 1.

They’re both sexy as all get-out, and inspiring. We can’t wait.

What are you doing this Valentine’s Day? You can tell us here.

Happy Valentine’s Day!
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Romance Counts

Friday, February 1st, 2008

Valentine’s Day arrives in less than two weeks—picture Eros with his arrow of love getting ready to zoom into your life for a day. Are you ready?

Romance counts. It makes the hard times softer, easier to get through. In any relationship, ours included, wooing keeps love alive. The thrill of the chase may be just beginning or already over, but the extra courtesies and kind gestures that fuel romance also fuel abiding love for each other. Valentine’s Day is a day to remember and honor romance.

So if you haven’t already, now’s the time to plan a wonderful, romantic Valentine’s celebration. Perhaps it’s flowers and chocolate and an evening out on the town. Perhaps it’s a long weekend at a romantic getaway.

And if for some reason you have to be alone, treat yourself to an evening you’ll remember. Do something different. Try something you’ve never done before. Do something you’ve promised yourself you would.

We’re going to be staying home on Valentine’s Day. We’ll cook a special dinner—perhaps lamb chops with a salad of red lettuce and a lemony vinaigrette. There’s a chocolate ganache cake we both love. Decorated with raspberries, it’ll be the perfect accompaniment to watching Sugar High Glitter City, our favorite sexy movie to watch when romance comes knocking on Valentine’s Day.

What’s your Valentine’s Day romance quotient? You can comment here.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com

christi@fatalemedia.com

Q&A: Ask Fanny – Man’s Terms

Wednesday, January 16th, 2008

G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.

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Dear Fanny,

Got the dvd on the gspot, but I’m confused…You say many women can’t ejaculate with something inside them… How do you play with it for them to ejaculate if that is the case? Please explain in simple man’s terms.

JB, via e-mail

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Dear JB,

Most women, but not all, find it difficult or impossible to ejaculate with something inside their vagina – at the moment of ejaculation. Some women ejaculate with a gush, but it is of course impossible to arc the ejaculate out of the body when close contact such as intercourse is occurring.

Therefore, you play with it – that is, stimulate the G-spot – before she ejaculates. Using toys, fingers, penis, you have ample time to play with the G-spot before the moment of ejaculation.

When you feel her G-spot engorge and swell, then withdraw your penis (or toy or fingers) and allow the ejaculate to flow.

Hope that was simple enough. Good luck.

Fanny

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Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.

Be sure to check out Deborah’s new DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.