Clay Aiken and Lindsay Lohan have finally come out publicly. And, it appears, on their own terms.
Even the New York Times’ Style section got in on the act on Sunday with “Out in Hollywood.” Nice pic, Ellen!
As one commenter noted in response to The Advocate’s article “Clay and Lindsay are Gay — Shock!”: “[O]ne should be allowed to self-identify. No one has the right to make that announcement for anyone else.”
We couldn’t agree more. All those queers still in the closet have a right to be there, just as each of us has a right to come out if and when we want to. We do understand that coming out is a luxury for those not living in tolerant circumstances. Hollywood is tolerant place.
“Clay felt that it was right to come out to get it off of his back. He felt the need to no longer live a lie. This goes for gay or straight. It does not have to be about being a homosexual,” says our friend Chuck in Louisiana.
“There are many who are not marriage material and are doing things to impress others,” he continued. “There are those who try to impress family members and friends.”
October 11, 2008, is National Coming Out Day here in the U.S.
Our friend Chris told Nan he wanted to wear her Take Her Down production T-shirt on that day! We’ll see if we can dig a clean one up for him.
However you celebrate National Coming Out Day, it’s worth remembering that those who don’t come out, who you just know are gay, probably have a reason for staying the closet.
We salute Hollywood stars and ordinary people alike for their courage in coming out.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
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What Women Want
Sunday, February 1st, 2009We were curious to see Charles McGrath’s review of Daniel Bergner’s new book, The Other Side of Desire (Ecco, $24.99). Subtitled Four Journeys into the Far Realms of Lust and Longing, the book is about “people most of us would call perverts or weirdos.”
Ah! Pervs and weirdos. That’s us.
So imagine our surprise to see the next day, a week ago, the cover story of the New York Times Magazine: “What Is Female Desire?” by the very same Daniel Bergner.
Our first thought: Nobody asked us!
But after reading this fascinating article about women sexologists exploring the inner reaches of female sexuality, we were sold that they’re doing good work.
But we know there are lots and lots of women who know exactly what they want. Is this still an issue? Apparently so.
Here’s the letter Nan sent to the New York Times:
To the Editor:
As someone who has catered to women’s tastes for sexually explicit material for 25 years, I read with interest Daniel Bergner’s article “What Is Female Desire?” and applaud the work of Meredith Chivers and the other sexologists. Although I am not a scientist, I nonetheless have observed over these past 25 years that women will seek out and spend money on sexually explicit material that they know turns them on. In other words, there are plenty of women who know exactly what they want.
Sincerely,
Nan Kinney
President
Fatale Media, Inc.
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