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What Women Want

Sunday, February 1st, 2009

theothersideofdesirebergner1We were curious to see Charles McGrath’s review of Daniel Bergner’s new book, The Other Side of Desire (Ecco, $24.99). Subtitled Four Journeys into the Far Realms of Lust and Longing, the book is about “people most of us would call perverts or weirdos.”

Ah! Pervs and weirdos. That’s us.

So imagine our surprise to see the next day, a week ago, the cover story of the New York Times Magazine: “What Is Female Desire?” by the very same Daniel Bergner.

Our first thought: Nobody asked us!

But after reading this fascinating article about women sexologists exploring the inner reaches of female sexuality, we were sold that they’re doing good work.

But we know there are lots and lots of women who know exactly what they want. Is this still an issue? Apparently so.

Here’s the letter Nan sent to the New York Times:

To the Editor:
As someone who has catered to women’s tastes for sexually explicit material for 25 years, I read with interest Daniel Bergner’s article “What Is Female Desire?” and applaud the work of Meredith Chivers and the other sexologists. Although I am not a scientist, I nonetheless have observed over these past 25 years that women will seek out and spend money on sexually explicit material that they know turns them on. In other words, there are plenty of women who know exactly what they want.

Sincerely,

Nan Kinney
President
Fatale Media, Inc.

Tell us what you think women want!

Deborah Sundahl Hits AEE at CES 2009

Thursday, January 15th, 2009

Deborah Sundahl at CES 2009
Deborah Sundahl – a.k.a. Fanny Fatale – headed to Las Vegas last week for the Adult Entertainment Expo at the Consumer Electronics Show (CES).

“For three days,” she says, “I sat in seminars and listened to important discussions about the women’s market for porn. Yet when the Big 4 executives—from Hot Movies, Hustler and other big companies—sat down at a panel, not one word was mentioned about women or the women’s market. It’s like women don’t exist for them. Only the Internet and men.”

What does this mean? Deborah thinks the big boys are out of touch, that women do represent an important factor in the adult market. Since the days of the anti-porn crowds, many, many years ago, women have come into their own vis-à-vis adult.

Friends Deborah ran into in Las Vegas include Nina Hartley, Tristan Taormino, Kim Airs and the gals at Babeland. 

Two more pictures of Deborah in Las Vegas:

Deborah at CES 2009

Deb at CES 2009 standing

Quickies

Monday, December 15th, 2008

We were in New York not long ago, and over an Italian dinner in Chelsea, a friend told us this story:

“Years ago, I was living down in the West Village with my boyfriend. We had an apartment on Bleecker Street between Christopher and Grove. One Saturday morning we were out grocery shopping. On the way home, climbing up the stairs, we got as far as the second floor. Suddenly we just dropped the grocery bags and did it right there in the hallway of our apartment building. Five minutes! And it was utterly invigorating.”

One Night StandIt struck us that December is a month filled with holiday parties, racing around, shopping, more parties, gift-wrapping, family dinners…did we say parties? When so much holiday activity is swirling around, it’s easy to forget to treat yourself.

Quickies are the perfect escape…and so invigorating, as our friend discovered that day in the hallway.

Give your sweetie a quickie this season, and you won’t regret it!

Need some inspiration? Check out the dykes in the red bathroom in One Night Stand.

Happy Hanukah! Merry Christmas! Enjoy your December!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

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SexGeek Review of One Night Stand

Monday, December 15th, 2008

The SexGeek has written a blow-us-away most excellent review of Fatale’s latest DVD, One Night Stand.

One Night Stand“The film’s various scenes are downright delicious, definitely a cut above what I’ve come to expect of queer porn… The chemistry in the final scene is electrifying… Really the whole film is beautifully shot, with lots of great angles, especially impressive considering it’s a DIY… All in all, One Night Stand is a true treat, and definitely a must for the collection of any queer porn connoisseur.”

Read the whole review: “Finally a One Night Stand.”

Check out the sexy lesbian DVD One Night Stand.

Halloween Fantasies

Thursday, October 30th, 2008

Is Halloween your favorite holiday? Is dressing up part of your wildest fantasies? Or maybe it’s just the profusion of candy and little trick-or-treaters at your door.

When we were kids, no grownups dressed up except one  holiday? Is dressing up part of your wildest fantasies? Or maybe it’s just the profusion of candy and little trick-or-treaters at your door.

neighbor lady who always dressed as a witch…in full regalia and green pancake makeup, one or two large warts on her nose. Scariest grownup we ever saw.

Of course, Wicked has become one of our favorite Broadway plays.

Here’s Christi’s Josephine Baker fantasy costume:

Josephine Baker

About a far a cry from Sarah Palin masks – sure to be popular this year – as we can imagine.

No matter what you think of Sarah Palin, the Republican Vice Presidential Beehive who’s now “dressing down” in jeans, Josephine Baker epitomizes sexy.

Sexy, sultry, playful. What’s your fantasy? 

If you could be anyone, anything at all, for Halloween, what would you be? Tell us here at the blog comments section. 

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

One Night StandP.S. One Night Stand got a fabulous review in AVN. Three and a half stars for Fatale’s latest DVD! Read the One Night Stand review.

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Dressing Up vs. Real Life

Thursday, October 30th, 2008

We’ve been corresponding for the last couple of months with an old friend and customer about women dressing as men.

Was this merely a passing fashion? Madonna, Annie Lennox, Salma Hayek, Geri Halliwell… The list goes on.

Aimee Mann June 2008

Even Aimee Mann has been known to wear men’s neckties. Here she is in a June 2008 performance at the Pabst Theater in Milwaukee, Wisconsin.

Celebrities – women in particular – change their looks and images all the time. They have to. And face it, these celebrities are all femmes. Even in menswear, they keep the makeup and earrings and women’s panties. Chances are good there are no jockey shorts under their getups.

Dressing up for your lover is fun. And dressing up for sex is a tradition in BDSM—one of our favorite sex costumes is that of Mistress Cobra in Full Load.

But real life is another matter. Most butches we know wear only men’s attire. This is not “women dressing in men’s clothes” the way Madonna and Annie Lennox have been known to do when the mood strikes.

Nan Kinney

For butches, menswear is a way of life. It is part of who they are, and Nan counts herself among them. Here is Phyllis Christopher’s head shot of Nan. Not quite the same look as Aimee Mann’s, is it?

Then we think of Ellen. She too wears men’s clothing. An out dyke, Ellen DeGeneres falls into both the Celebrity and Butch Dyke camps.

Categories morph. Mores change. What’s permissible now was not always the case. Passing women took huge risks in the last centuries. We love Madonna, but she had nothing to fear by gigging herself up in men’s garb.

Celebrate Coming Out

Wednesday, October 1st, 2008

Clay Aiken and Lindsay Lohan have finally come out publicly. And, it appears, on their own terms.

Even the New York Times’ Style section got in on the act on Sunday with “Out in Hollywood.” Nice pic, Ellen!

As one commenter noted in response to The Advocate’s article “Clay and Lindsay are Gay — Shock!”: “[O]ne should be allowed to self-identify. No one has the right to make that announcement for anyone else.”

We couldn’t agree more. All those queers still in the closet have a right to be there, just as each of us has a right to come out if and when we want to. We do understand that coming out is a luxury for those not living in tolerant circumstances. Hollywood is tolerant place.

Clay Aiken on the People Magazine cover“Clay felt that it was right to come out to get it off of his back. He felt the need to no longer live a lie. This goes for gay or straight. It does not have to be about being a homosexual,” says our friend Chuck in Louisiana.

“There are many who are not marriage material and are doing things to impress others,” he continued. “There are those who try to impress family members and friends.”

October 11, 2008, is National Coming Out Day here in the U.S.

Our friend Chris told Nan he wanted to wear her Take Her Down production T-shirt on that day! We’ll see if we can dig a clean one up for him.

However you celebrate National Coming Out Day, it’s worth remembering that those who don’t come out, who you just know are gay, probably have a reason for staying the closet.

We salute Hollywood stars and ordinary people alike for their courage in coming out.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

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Praying Away the Gay?

Monday, September 15th, 2008

Pray Away the Gay…Heh Heh
Can you pray away the gay?

We’ve been asking some friends this question – not exactly a Gallop Poll-like sampling of individuals, but a mix nonetheless. Practicing Christians. Vietnam Vets. Southern-born ladies. Post Office workers. Just asking the people we’ve run into lately.

“Can you pray away psoriasis?” asked the Vet.

If you haven’t heard, the U.S. Vice Presidential nominee for the Republican Party this year is a woman named Sarah Palin. She worships at a church in Alaska and was taped giving a talk in which she referred to this “pray-away-the-gay” movement.

News to us. But, being gay, probably we wouldn’t have been their target audience. Intractable queers we are.

Still, when we think about it, there are at least two family members who we suspect have secretly prayed not to be gay. They both, if appearances bear out the truth, have succeeded at least in quashing their outward homo behavior.

But most of us know that praying not to be gay is laughable. It just doesn’t work!

Isn’t it possible that gays and lesbians were meant to add a little spice to an otherwise kind of boring evolutionary job?

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Susie Bright Comes to Visit

Friday, August 15th, 2008

We had a delightful surprise last week. Susie Bright called to say she was in town. She was headed to visit a friend, to celebrate his 70th birthday with him.

The four of us had a lovely dinner sitting outside at a local restaurant. Afterwards, we took pictures.

Susie Bright and Nan Kinney
The fabulous Susie Bright with Nan Kinney…

Susie and Nan go way back to the first days of On Our Backs magazine, which they co-founded with Deborah Sundahl.

“I became famous for my lesbian sex consulting on Bound, but I learned all my lesbian erotic chops as a young dyke, working on Fatale Video’s first titles,” Susie said when we asked her what she thought of the reunion.

Suburban Dykes“It was so exciting to be making the first lesbian-made erotic films, ever, and they hold up to the test of time,” Susie said.

One of those lesbian classics Susie worked on, still a Fatale lesbian bestseller, is Suburban Dykes, starring Nina Hartley and Miss Sharon Mitchell.

Thank you, Susie. You may come back and visit anytime. We’d love to have you again.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Global Nudity

Friday, August 15th, 2008

A customer and longtime friend wrote to tell us about the World Naked Bike Ride. We confess we’re fond of the women’s Olympic bicycle race, but this was new to us.

Cyclists in 70 cities across 20 countries have participated, and it’s easy to sign up to volunteer to ride naked in a city near you.

If you’re headed to Burning Man, a naked bike ride is planned in Nevada for August 28, 2008.

World Naked Bike Ride
Check it out here: World Naked Bike Ride.

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