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Sex on the Beach: Postcard from Florida

Thursday, September 16th, 2010

During a visit to Florida recently, Christi watched one evening as couples gathered on the beach near sundown, some of them under cabanas but mostly just sprawled on towels, lying face-up to watch the evening sky darken.

A long line of airplanes, lit like planets in themselves, were aligned across the eastern sky, each of them headed toward Miami. Behind the beach runs the Hollywood (Florida) boardwalk where couples strolled hand in hand and restaurants filled with hungry diners.

Hollywood FL boardwalk

It was after Labor Day and before “winter,” as the locals call it here—that time when northerners descend on the state and locals “can’t get a place to park.”

It was steamy and sexy all at once. Those couples lying on the beach, couples holding hands on the boardwalk, all lost in private reverie.

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Bye-Bye Prop 8

Monday, August 16th, 2010

This past two weeks we saw Proposition 8 stuck down, with U.S. District Court Judge Vaughn Walker, saying that the California proposition was “unconstitutional.”

Then just this past week, we saw the New York Times breaking news that California gay and lesbian couples who wanted to get married would have to wait—again, until Wednesday, August 18th.

We posted a comment on Fatale’s Facebook page, and now we wait with bated breath to see what happens next.

Till victory.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Prop 8 Victory

Wednesday, August 4th, 2010
Proposition 8 Victory August 2010

Risberg/AP

Today Proposition 8 was overturned by U.S. District Court Judge Vaughn Walker, saying that the California proposition was “unconstitutional.”

In the ruling’s conclusion, the judge wrote: “Proposition 8 fails to advance any rational basis in singling out gay men and lesbians for denial of a marriage license. Indeed the evidence shows Proposition 8 does nothing more than enshrine in the California constitution the notion that opposite sex couples are superior to same sex couples.” 

(Special thanks to Go Magazine for pointing out this salient quote.)

This ruling is worth cheering about. Even if those who oppose gay marriage want to take this to the Supreme Court, so be it. For now we have victory.

We hope New York follows suit. Could we dare to dream of a country where gay marriage is legal in every state?

The Wedding Issue

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

June is traditionally the month to get married. The nearby church parking lot has been packed for the last two Saturdays, and we expect it will be the next two weekends too.

It was a bit of a shock to learn that Elton John was singing at Rush Limbaugh’s wedding to wife #4. But hey, a million dollars is a million dollars. Nice fee if you can get it.

Tomorrow in San Francisco a different kind of wedding issue is coming to a head. Same-sex marriage is on trial in Perry vs. Schwarzenegger, the significant case that goes up against Proposition 8.

Proposition 8 outlaws same-sex marriage in the state of California, denying gays and lesbians the right to marry there since voters passed the law in late 2008.

Why does California matter? Because it’s the largest state in the union, and what happens in California is often a harbinger of what happens elsewhere in the U.S.

Kris Perry and Sandy Stier Plaintiffs

Kris Perry and Sandy Stier, Plaintiffs

Why does Perry vs. Schwarzenegger matter? Because what happens tomorrow in San Francisco will most likely prod the winners or losers in this case to appeal to the United States Supreme Court. Does Proposition 8 violate the U.S. Constitution? This is the first time the gay-marriage issue has been fought on the grounds that it violates the Constitution.

The full testimony from the January trial can be found at the Equal Rights Foundation.

As an appropriate aside, we find it heartening to learn that a new study shows teenaged children of lesbians are quite well adjusted, thank you very much. The study by Nanette Gartrell was published last week in the journal Pediatrics.

As for Perry vs. Schwarzenegger, don’t expect to see the daylong closing arguments broadcast on TV, however. As reported in the San Francisco Chronicle, the judge in the case, Chief U.S. District Judge Vaughn Walker, denied media outlets’ petition to film the closing arguments. It’s really too bad. Perhaps if more ordinary people could see the absurdity of the case against same-sex marriage, they wouldn’t be cowed by the religious right to vote against equality for all

Frank Rich wrote a good piece in the New York Times on Sunday, required reading if you’re more interested in the TV show “Glee” rather than gay marriage: “Two Weddings, a Divorce and ‘Glee.’

Needless to say, we’ll be following this case closely as it winds on. Your opinion? Let us know what you think here in the comments section.

Till next time, we say Happy Gay Pride! Wear it well.

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

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Good-bye Don’t Ask Don’t Tell

Friday, May 28th, 2010

The first step in repealing the 1993 Clinton presidency compromise on gays in the military, “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell,” is at last on its way out.

Yesterday the U.S. House of Representatives voted 234 to 194 to allow the repeal of the law, which bans out gays and lesbians in the military.

Officially:  House Vote 317 – Allows Repeal of Ban on Gays in Military (New York Times article today).

Grethe CammermeyerChristi had the pleasure of sitting at Grethe Cammermeyer’s table at President Bill Clinton’s 1992 inauguration. For Christi, it was Grethe Cammermeyer who brought to light the serious issues of gays in the military and what that really means on a day-to-day basis.

It was a sad day when the “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” compromise was forced in to law. But since then, Americans’ perceptions of gays and lesbians seem to have changed for the better. We’re not the same pariahs we were then.

To that we salute the House members who voted to repeal this act.

Facebook Invite Redux

Friday, April 30th, 2010

Just when we put out a real invitation to “become a fan” of Fatale Media on Facebook, Facebook changed its language.

So now we invite you to like us at Facebook.

Please, like us.

If you’ve heard about Facebook’s new “instant personalization” program and have any privacy concerns, here is a link to an article worth reading:

“How to Opt Out of Facebook’s Instant Personalization,” The New York Times, April 23, 2010:
http://gadgetwise.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/04/23/how-to-opt-out-of-facebooks-instant-personalization/

And don’t forget to like us at Fatale Media!

Happy Spring!

Thursday, April 1st, 2010

Happy Passover!

Happy Easter!

Happy Springtime!

No matter where you are in the world, no matter if you celebrate holidays or not, we hope you are happy and reveling in the change of season.

Interesting comment from Stacey on last month’s Fatale blog post “Let’s Pretend to Be Lesbians”:

“Not to mention, Jones New York is one of the worst ranked (at least by HRC) places for LGBT folks to work.”

In our opinion, any self-respecting LGBT would have fought tooth and nail against this dumb-ass image.

Okay, rant over.

We’re looking forward to having Deb Sundahl visit for Easter and a few days more, now that she’s back from her European workshops and lecture tour. We’ll get more Ask Fanny columns for sure!

If you have questions about female ejaculation, you can e-mail askfanny@fatalemedia.com. Please put “Ask Fanny question” in the subject line.

Happy Spring. Happy April.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. If you ordered a Fatale catalog to be mailed to you, hang in there. We’ve run out and are sending out photocopies, but we’re running late. So we appreciate your patience.

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Snorkeling and Scandalous

Tuesday, March 16th, 2010

Former Congressman Eric MassaWe’ve watched with amusement over the last week as the media has grappled with the notion of former Congressman Eric Massa “snorkeling” and tickling his fellow housemates—interns and others—in his Washington, D.C., townhouse…or perhaps that should that be bunkhouse.

Even comedian Bill Maher, a guest on MSBNC’s Countdown with Keith Olbermann, was stumped on the snorkeling, not having heard the term.

Here’s a clip from Huffington Post of Bill Maher ragging on Massa

Maybe Massa should have checked out Bend Over Boyfriend for a little fantasy-comes-to-life fun.

He’s not gay, right? (Here’s what he told Larry King.)

The luscious women at Scandalous Women did a fabulous review of Bend Over Boyfriend in the article, “Bending Your Boyfriends Over.”

“If your bag of carnal tricks doesn’t include “pegging” yet, rest assured this bedroom role reversing power play will soon be appearing in one of your upcoming booty calls!

“[U]seful tips and advice on building your confidence to approach your men about anal sex, how to find the right strapon (size matters!) and how to fuck him so it doesn’t hurt…much. Role-playing and fantasy are also explored to a degree and it asks the all important question, ‘what do women get out of this?’ The answer – when a dildo is strapped on it’s usually positioned right over your clit and you have rhythmic sensations right where it counts.”

Thanks, ladies!

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. If you haven’t checked out Bend Over Boyfriend yet, do it! You can also get Bend Over Boyfriend and Bend Over Boyfriend 2 together and save 15%.

Let’s Pretend to Be Lesbians

Monday, March 15th, 2010

Rather shocking ad, a double-page spread, in the latest Martha Stewart Living appears to advertise the Jones New York clothing line available at Macy’s. Huh?

Why are these two straight girls holding hands and looking as if they’ve just eaten forbidden fruit?

Here’s the picture (don’t choke):

Happy Valentine’s Day

Sunday, February 14th, 2010

With all love from Christi & Nan. May your Valentine’s Day be exactly what you wish and hope it will be.