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Honey Lee Cottrell: A Life

Thursday, October 8th, 2015

The following is the obituary of Honey Lee Cottrell written by Brenda J. Marston of the Human Sexuality Collection, Cornell University.

 

Honey Lee Cottrell

Honey Lee Cottrell. 1978. Image by Tee Corinne.

Honey Lee Cottrell, a visionary photographer and filmmaker who pioneered lesbian erotica in the 1980s through her contributions to the women’s sex magazine On Our Backs, died on Monday, Sept. 21, of pancreatic cancer.

Cottrell revolutionized the female nude, validated women’s right to pleasure, and opened possibilities for women to see themselves and their desires in new ways through her engagement in a variety of feminist, artistic, and sex education projects. She studied at the National Sex Forum and was a member of San Francisco Sex Information in the 1970s. She co-authored I Am My Lover, a 1978 feminist book celebrating masturbation that she created with Joani Blank and Tee Corinne. She was an early member of the Lesbian and Gay History Project, founded in late 1978 in San Francisco.

In 1981, Honey Lee received a BA in film studies from San Francisco State University. She was director and camera for Sweet Dreams starring Pat Califia (National Sex Forum, 1980), and from 1985 to the early 90s, a cinematographer for Fatale Video, the first lesbian-created erotic movie company.

She was one of the “core four,” along with Debi Sundahl, Nan Kinney, and Susie Bright, who gave On Our Backs its style and success. When it started in 1984, she proposed a “Bulldagger of the Month” centerfold for the first issue. She explained that the idea was “to stand this Playboy centerfold idea on its head from, I would say, a feminist perspective… what would I do if I was a centerfold and how can I reflect back to them our values?” Her idea was not to be “the regular kind of centerfold, but something that will make a difference, shake people up, show the other side of the mirror.” Cottrell was a contributing photographer to On Our Backs for seven years.

She photographed her lovers and friends and documented queer and kink cultures for decades with her first camera, a 35 mm Nikkormat. She was exacting and precise in the photographs and collages she created, as well as in her dark room work. She studied with Ruth Bernhard, who invited Cottrell to be her printer. In addition to I Am My Lover and On Our Backs, her still photography has appeared in publications including The Blatant Image, Coming to Power, Sinister Wisdom, and Nothing But the Girl. Her exhibitions include shows at 848 Community Space in San Francisco, the Bacchanal in Albany, California, The Gay and Lesbian Historical Society of Northern California (now known as the GLBT Historical Society), the NAME gallery in Chicago, and her images were part of Cornell University’s Speaking of Sex exhibition.

“The lesbian gaze meant that there was a contemplation,” she said, “a restraint, a sincerity and a warrior-quality. This lesbian look was compelling. While your heterosexual woman model might compel the rest of the world to look at her, a lesbian was addressing you.”

 Born in Astoria, Oregon, on January 16, 1946, the oldest of two children, she grew up in Michigan. After completing a year at Michigan State University in 1964-65, Honey Lee worked for at the Technicolor photo processing lab. As she later discovered, a number of lesbians were working there, having discovered it was a fairly safe place for butch women to work. Honey Lee was invited to visit one of these women, Harriet DeVito, who had moved to New York City, and then ended up driving across country with her to California in 1966. Along the way, Honey Lee discovered what her feelings for women meant to her, and Harriet became her first lover.

Once she arrived in San Francisco, she made it her home and became deeply involved in the creative lesbian community of artists, photographers, and film-makers in the Bay Area, as well as the progressive sex education activists. She opened her apartment on Bessie Street to friends and artists, helping find jobs and shelter for people in need.

To support her artistic work, Cottrell worked in two unions. As a member of the Marine Cooks and Stewards, she was able to fulfill her dream of travel to South Pacific where her father Duane Cottrell had served in WWII. She worked as a banquet waiter in Hotel and Restaurant Employees Union in the 1980s and 90s, retiring in 2012. A proud union member, she walked many a picket line protesting the mistreatment of workers especially recent immigrant populations working as room cleaners at San Francisco hotels.

Gayle Rubin, anthropologist and theorist of sex and gender politics, says that Honey Lee:

“was never someone who put herself out front … she was more of a quiet observer, but a persistently potent presence. She had a kind of strength and solidity that seemed to anchor things around her; as if she provided the gravity that held various circling planets in their stable orbits. And she just kept generating images, events, relationships, connections.”

She loved the outdoors and studied herbal medicine, native plants, and botany. With this perspective and perhaps with her photographer’s training to notice interesting small moments of daily life, she went through her illness and death with a combination of butch swagger and serenity, a confidence that everything would be alright. She continued to direct photo shoots and art installations, and found delights in each changing day. Two weeks before her death, she had the energy one day for a road trip, lunch at a favorite Middle Eastern deli with longtime and new friends, and a walk in the redwoods. No one was surprised that she crawled under “Caution” tape and a Do Not Enter sign to get to her favorite tree, a spot she had often brought her daughter Aretha Bright.

Past lovers and family members came to visit Honey in her last 40 days, and she died at peace in her home in Santa Cruz. She is survived by her mother Patricia Cottrell, brother Michael Cottrell, and daughter Aretha Bright— and her life companions Melinda Gebbe, Amber Hollibaugh, and Susie Bright.  Her papers will be cared for by the Cornell University Library Human Sexuality Collection, which will also address any questions about Cottrell’s life and work. Please direct condolences to her family at:

Mike, Judiebell, and Pat Cottrell, 3508 Greenwood Dr., Hermitage, TN 37076

Aretha Bright, POB 895, Santa Cruz, CA 95061

Susie Bright and Jon Bailiff, POB 8377, Santa Cruz, CA 95061
I declare

That later on,

Even in an age unlike our own,

Someone will remember who we are.

Sappho

 

Cottrell’s artist statement: https://www.cla.purdue.edu/waaw/corinne/Cottrell.htm

Guide to the first part of her archives: http://rmc.library.cornell.edu/EAD/htmldocs/RMM07822.html

Sept. 6, 2015 Recording: https://youtu.be/o30jpQIwcBw

 

A Picture Is Worth…

Saturday, September 19th, 2015

Candida Royalle

Summer is over here in the Northern Hemisphere, and autumn beckons. Recently a much admired and well-loved feminist pioneer friend and colleague of ours died.

Candida Royalle, many of you know, was the visionary feminist pornographer who pioneered what became “couples porn,” which could be part of the mainstream. As Nan wrote in her sweet and moving column, “Remembering Candida,” Candida’s goal was always “to open up the mainstream porn market to porn made by women for women. And she achieved that goal.”

We posted a nice pic of Candida in the blog piece  and on Fatale’s Facebook page. One classy lady!

Fatale Media on Pinterest

 

 

Speaking of pictures, do come on over and follow us on Pinterest. Some of our boards include “Lesbians We Love,” “Femme Thrills,” “Dyke Pride,” “Butch” and more.

If you’re not familiar with Pinterest, think of it as a social media website with lots of bulletin boards where you can “pin” your pictures. It’s fun. Come join us!

Until next time,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S.  Check out Fatale’s super-cool lesbian titles, what LesbianLife.About.com calls “the best lesbian porn.”

P.P.S. See all Fatale’s cool videos, including the new My Best Friend’s Perfect Pussy.

Remembering Candida

Saturday, September 12th, 2015

Candida Royalle

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We mourn the loss of Candida Royalle, who died last Monday, September 7, 2015.

“Candida really started the ‘Couples’ market in mainstream porn industry. She was the godmother, really the mother of the Couples porn movies,” Nan writes.

“I admired her for bringing her feminist porn to the mainstream market, that was always her goal, to open up the mainstream porn market to porn made by women for women.

“And she achieved that goal. Beautifully produced movies focusing on women’s pleasure. Always supportive and generous to us at Fatale, with her time and advice. She was one of our role models as we made our way bringing real lesbian porn to lesbians.”

Happy Birthday to Nan

Saturday, May 2nd, 2015

Nan Kinney Feminist Porn Awards Trailblazer Recipient 2013

Today is Nan’s birthday! It’s a biggie, so we’re headed to one of Nan’s favorite places, Cannon Beach, Oregon, to celebrate. We leave on Monday and can’t wait!

It’s also Derby Day today, so before we even look at a suitcase, we’ll be muddling some mint leaves from the garden for a mint julep.

Tonight we’re headed to a romantic restaurant we’ve never been to before.

Romance for sure is in the air. Thank you for letting us share it with you.

Say happy birthday to Nan on Fatale’s page on Facebook! We want to make saying happy birthday a tradition.

You are welcome to follow us, FataleMedia, on Facebook or Pinterest or @FataleMedia on Twitter, where we’ll be posting pictures from the celebratory trip.

Till next time, yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S.  See all Fatale’s lesbian titles, what LesbianLife.About.com calls “the best lesbian porn.”

P.P.S. Here are the social media links spelled out:
Facebook, www.facebook.com/FataleMedia
Pinterest, www.pinterest.com/FataleMedia
Twitter, @FataleMedia, www.twitter.com/FataleMedia

Feminist Porn Awards 2015

Friday, April 17th, 2015

Feminist Porn Awards

The Feminist Porn Awards are happening now in Toronto. We wish we were there to help celebrate!

We’re pretty excited about Berlin-based Goodyn Green’s feature-length porn flick Shutter, which was featured at the Berlin Porn Film Festival and is nominated this year. We’ll see if she wins!

Feminist Porn Awards by Good for Her

The amazing Good for Her hosts the awards ceremony, and tonight is the 10th annual Feminist Porn Awards gala!

If you want to see a recent winner, check out Courtney Trouble’s Lesbian Curves, which won Hottest Dyke Film at last year’s Feminist Porn Awards!

See all Fatale’s movies!

World AIDS Day 2014

Monday, December 1st, 2014

World AIDS Day 2014

Today is World AIDS Day. We remember our many friends who died, and we look forward to a world without HIV/AIDS. #WAD2014 #WorldAIDSDay

Spooky Sexy Halloween

Friday, October 24th, 2014

Halloween is next week, and we can’t wait!

Seriously, it’s one of our favorite holidays, mostly nondenominational and a no-risk excuse to dress up and have fun!

Here’s one of the most interesting articles we’ve read, and we thought you’d like too (1.5K shares!), from executive editor Emily McCombs – @msemilymccombs at XO Jane.

8 Slutty And Feminist Costumes for Sex-Positive Halloween Lovers” will have you chuckling if not rolling and calling out for more.

The only one we thought missing? Slutty feminist pornographer! Of course. Pick a wig and you’re on your way… These are our wig picks. What do you think?

Feminist Porn Director Wigs look 1

feminist porn director looks

Fave comment from XO Jane article:

Slutty witch…not as original as this list, but still kinda feminist…plus there’s nothing like being slutty and scary at the same time!”

More good slutty/sexy/feminist comments:

“Sexy taco.”

Sexy owl.”

St. Pauli MILF.

Annie Sprinkle

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And #2, Annie Sprinkle!

What are planning to dress up as this Halloween? Post your pictures on Fatale’s Facebook page or Tweet it to us @FataleMedia.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S.  We celebrated #FistingDay – promoted by the sexy Jiz Lee. Here’s our blog post, and here’s one of our favorite movies starring Jiz Lee.

P.P.S. See all Fatale’s lesbian titles, what LesbianLife.About.com calls “the best lesbian porn.”

Celebrate #FistingDay

Tuesday, October 21st, 2014

#FistingDay 2014A huge thank-you to the inimitable Jiz Lee for the tireless promotion of fisting. #FistingDay is a big part of it.

P.S. You know Jiz Lee as a star in several bestselling and award-winning lesbian porn flicks, including The Wild Search, Champion – Love Hurts, The Crash Pad Series Volume 1, The Crash Pad Series Volume 4 – Rope Burn and The Crash Pad Series Volume 6 – Wide Open. Jiz is totally hot! We’re in love!

Michael Sam and the NFL

Friday, May 16th, 2014

Our friend Chuck wrote to ask that we say something about the momentous notion that an openly gay man, Michael Sam, has been chosen in the NFL draft. In this case, by the St. Louis Rams.

Michael Sam

He kissed his (white) boyfriend in celebration. On ESPN.

And that seems to be what’s eating away at Middle America. A Dallas morning talk show had one of the four Texas gals storming out during the discussion. Here’s Tuesday’s clip from KTXD-TV’s “The Broadcast” courtesy of LGBTQ Nation.

Chuck wrote, “I would rather have a Michael Sam as a teammate any day over some of these players who are bullies. I was bullied. Being a former football player, I never thought the day that we would see people such as Sam live his truth.”

Thank you, Chuck, for drawing our attention to the many, many hidden, secret churnings underneath the surface fact of Michael Sam’s coming out and being selected for the NFL draft.

And kissing his boyfriend. The nerve.

Michael Sam Kissing His Boyfriend ESPN

Kissing his boyfriend. Sweet.

Follow Fatale on Facebook as we watch the unfolding drama.

Ellen #1

Friday, April 18th, 2014
Ellen DeGeneres

Ellen DeGeneres

 

Ellen DeGeneres has been named the #1 most influential person among gay movers and shakers, out-influencing Apple’s CEO, Tim Cook. Out magazine named its Power 50.

Ellen moved up from the #2 spot last year. One reason, Out’s editors noted, was because it was “time to rethink how we ranked the profiles of the 50 most powerful lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people in America” in terms of their business and cultural influence, power-brokering having changed “immeasurably over the last few years alone.”

Among the Power 50, we were also very happy to see Rachel Maddow and Brittney Griner included.

We recommend Yagg’s analysis of the selection, too.

Congratulations, Ellen!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

P.S. See all Fatale’s lesbian titles, what LesbianLife.About.com calls “the best lesbian porn.”