Everybody gets tongue-tied now and then, picking up girls, e-mailing potential dates from online personals, approaching somebody on the street or in school or at work.
Be yourself, everybody says.
But what if you don’t know who you are, or who you want to be with this particular person? What if you want to explore something different?
Even couples who have been together for a while might want to break out of routine and try something new.
In Hope Springs, Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones star as a long-term couple who explore adding spark to their marriage.
When asked by the Philippine Daily Inquirer about why passion and sexuality “continue to be subjects that are not so openly discussed,” Streep said, “That has something to do with our vulnerability in talking about sex. We’re talking about our most vulnerable self, our needs, insecurities and nakedness, literally. But we’re also talking about our emotional needs, what we yearn for and what we never stop hoping for.”
Going out on sexier dates means learning to get over being tongue-tied. Being sexier means learning to flirt and even to talk dirty. It means being vulnerable.
In Talk to Me Baby: A Lover’s Guide to Dirty Talk and Role Play director and host Shar Rednour recommends role play for couples who want to explore “something different.”
We think role-play is a perfect way to be vulnerable and protected at the same time. But you have to ask for it. To get up the courage and say, “Want to talk dirty? Want to play dress-up?”
It’s the perfect time of year (think Halloween) to try dressing up and role-playing. There’s not much to lose in toying with new personalities, new personas, reaching inside to grab whatever you yearn for.
You can sound sexy and suggestive, flirty; you can free that sexy creature inside you.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
P.S. SMUT Magazine wrote about Talk to Me Baby: A Lover’s Guide to Dirty Talk and Role Play: “Shar Rednour is, as always, the perfect hostess. She’s her usual vampy, campy and out of control self. What I love about this video is that anyone can get something out of it.”
P.P.S. Check out what LesbianLife.About.com calls “the best lesbian porn.”
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Polycurious?
Saturday, March 3rd, 2012Superfreak
Throughout the years, we’ve met people in open relationships. Call it polyamory or, as some people prefer, polyfidelity.
A few years ago “polyamory” piqued the interest of journalists. The Daily Beast wondered if polyamory was the “next sexual revolution.” Big Love was big on HBO, and while the Book of Mormon was still in development, Mitt Romney was already planning his 2012 comeback as a presidential candidate.
Polyamorous Percolations is a blog that focuses on polyamory in the news. If you’re curious, it’s a good place to get the gist of poly “issues,” and there are issues. But clearly there’s also a lot of pleasure.
What struck us was the way some triads and foursomes (and moresomes) identified as straight, lesbian or bisexual.
We also stumbled upon a good article reprinted from Autostraddle called “Queer Polyamory for Lesbians.”
Speaking of Autostraddle, congratulations to them for winning three 2012 Webbies last Sunday and scooping up the coveted “Weblog of the Year.”
We love especially their NSFW Lesbosexy Sundays.
Yours in good love and sex,
Christi and Nan
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
P.S. One of our favorite flicks with a steamy dyke threeway is Shine Louise Houston’s Superfreak. Here’s a blog post listing the others, Good Lesbian PolyPleasure—7 must-see movies.
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