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Watching The Crash Pad Series Volume 3, this beautiful sex act is as relevant as ever. Not one scene goes by in the new Shine Louise Houston DVD without a good dose of the time-honored staple of dyke sex.

So on that note, we’re reposting this Sex Tips piece, which was originally published in the June 2006 newsletter.

Straight folks: If you haven’t tried it, don’t knock it.

Straight gals: Check out Bend Over Boyfriend for how to finger-fuck your boyfriend.

When we were younger, much younger, finger fucking could upon occasion produce major anxiety—were our nails clipped just so, no hangnails or raspy edges? Would she like it? Should we use a condom? Were there such things as “finger condoms”?

After exploring dozens if not hundreds of lesbian bodies, finger fucking seems as natural as kissing.

One of the best ways to get started is to go down on your girlfriend and lick her good. After she’s wet and open to you, gently ease your finger inside.

If you find you need some lube, the bottle should be next to the bed where you put it before you got all hot and horny with your girlfriend.

Slowly explore the ridges—feel her G spot just inside and along the roof of her vagina? Don’t press it at this point, but if she’s bucking like a rodeo horse, go for it!

As she begins to respond to your finger inside her, you can quit with the cunnilingus—your neck is probably stiff by now anyway—and move up alongside her, and keep stroking her with one finger. You’ll find your rhythm.

Slide a second finger inside. She’ll let you know if she’s open to it. You can try a third finger too, but often, one or two fingers do the trick.

By now you may really need the lube, or not. If she’s wet enough, you may not.

(More sex tips about fisting.)

Many lesbians view finger fucking as a prelude to “real sex” with a strap-on dildo. But it can also be the finger-fucking that brings her right to her first orgasm.

If she likes to have multiple orgasms, then consider more stroking with your fingers or donning your strap-on.

We’re assuming here that you’re both lying down, but try sitting up behind her. You can play with her breasts and nipples, stroke the inside of her thighs and get off on feeling her leaning up against you.

Finger fucking her doggy-style—an act you probably like a lot—is another way to reach her G spot and let her spew.

Just remember: Don’t ram her too hard. Your fingers should be loosely curled around to her natural shape.

You can also ask her if she likes it. Be willing to ease up a little and look at her face, kiss her. Is she enjoying herself?

If you’re the one getting finger fucked, remember to talk to your partner and let her know what you like and what you don’t. You can just say, “That hurts” or “Too hard” or “Harder.”

You can also guide your partner’s hand toward or away from your vagina. Take her wrist and push or pull her where you want her.

You can also finger fuck each other at the same time, a delightful experience if you like mutual, concurrent sex.

What’s your advice? Post a comment here.

From the director and star of Afterschool Special comes this special Sex Tips & Tricks column.

Superstar
by Royal Pink NYC Indie Band

Sure, we do it for the music. But who doesn’t love groupies? And the truth is, you don’t need to bother with booking gigs and lugging gear to play out a good, old-fashioned groupie scene. 

Time to get into character. If you’re the star, how about some tight, pleather pants à la Joan Jett? Or maybe you’re in more of a Stevie Nicks mood? Those floaty head scarves can come in handy if your groupie needs to be subdued. 

If you’re the groupie, are you going for a classy, Pamela Des Barres style? Or are you backstage at a Motley Crue concert, looking trashy with your teased bangs?  

Fingers and tongues are nice. But a flashy, glam rock dildo is a good idea, too. This one is silver glitter: http://store.babeland.com/dildos-silicone/woody

Are you experienced, dear groupie? Or is this your first time? Perhaps you just came out of the closet and are backstage at a Melissa Etheridge concert, desperate to show her how much the music has meant to you? 

Good groupies pride themselves on giving good head. While there’s plenty of advice out there on this subject, one essential component is often overlooked: enthusiasm. Beg for it, moan, rub yourself.  Stop for a second to say, “I can’t believe this is happening!  I’m your biggest fan!”   

Don’t forget to set the scene.  Are you backstage in a dressing room?  On a tour bus?  In a hotel suite?  No matter where you are, rock star protocol requires you to trash the place at least a little bit.   

This can also be a fun scenario to play in public. Scout out a bar or a restaurant with a one-seater and you’re set. “Meet me in the bathroom after the show…” 

Don’t forget that sometimes you have to fuck the roadie before you can even get backstage. Also, sometimes groupies bring a friend. 

A little bit of sleaze is mandatory for maximum authenticity. Did your groupie flash you from the front row, throw panties, beg you to sign a naughty body part? Do you videotape your tour bus conquests and screen them for your band mates later on? 

Groupies, never touch the gear without permission! That is, unless you want to get in big trouble. (And you just might…)

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Royal Pink is the coolest girl band playing the LES in New York City. And don’t forget to check out their hot lead singer, Karen, who stars in and directs Afterschool Special.