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And if you want to exchange a DVD for another in any gift set, all you have to do is put a note in the Comment section of the order form. It’s that easy.
Top 3 Bestselling Gift Sets:
1. “Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set”
3. ““Adventurous Couples Unite!””
Check out all Fatale’s gift sets.
It doesn’t have to hurt! It shouldn’t hurt. That is the #1 reassurance you need to give your partner if there is even a hint of fear.
Carol Queen, in Bend Over Boyfriend, emphasizes talking about anal sex before you do it. One way to bring up the subject is to talk about your fantasies with your partner, preferably while you’re fully dressed, but after making love is a good time too.
Sometimes it’s hard to talk first. Reader Gaye from New York City writes to suggest rolling over on to your belly while making love, then sticking your ass up in the air.
Later on, say to your lover, “I really liked it when you touched my ass.” See what your partner’s reaction is, and use that as a basis for later conversation.
Recently, a customer called to say that he’d heard about Bend Over Boyfriend because a friend of his wanted him to “try it, and be open to it.” She told him to watch the DVD and then they’d talk about it. Good idea, we told him.
Another idea is to write a love letter to your honey, and just say, “I want it!”
Find out more about Bend Over Boyfriend and Bend Over Boyfriend 2.
We had a lovely Valentine’s Day weekend. Thank you for asking.
Yes, we stayed home and made a romantic dinner just for the two of us. Then we watched One Night Stand, our latest favorite DVD. We couldn’t resist.
Curious what other Fatale customers were watching for Valentine’s Day romance? Here’s the lineup of bestsellers for February:
Lesbian
– The Crash Pad and The Crash Pad Gift Set (tied for first place)
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Straight and Educational
– Bend Over Boyfriend Gift Set
– Female Ejaculation for Couples
So as you’re thinking about spring break, getting away from it all, don’t forget to plan for romance…and lots of lusty sex! There’s nothing like a hit of good, real porn made by and for dykes to intrigue the right kind of lover.
And for adventurous straight couples, the same holds true—made by and for women makes all the difference in the world. Try it, she’ll like it.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
No, we’re not talking about your lover! But your butt, your behind, your bum, your rear, your tush.
Enjoying anal penetration comes naturally to some people. They “get it.” They just naturally relax and enjoy without a care in the world.
But anal sex doesn’t come easy for everybody. There is the taboo of touching, let alone probing, the anus. It’s a private place, to be sure, which makes it hard for some men and women to allow entry.
When Fatale released Bend Over Boyfriend ten years ago – yes, it’s the 10th anniversary of Bend Over Boyfriend, a cause for celebration – Carol Queen and her lover Robert Morgan showed how role reversal can spice up your sex life.
Women, too, can be skittish when it comes to their boyfriends touching or penetrating their rear ends.
When you’re ready to open up and enjoy this delicious sex act, there are some steps you can take to make anal sex a real pleasure:
And if your partner is the one who is struggling with anal sex, go slow, be gentle, restrain yourself until your partner feels confident to take it to the next level.
Ultimately, learning to enjoy anal penetration is about trust. You must trust each other for there to be true pleasure associated with anal sex. Or, we would argue, any other kind of sex.
Check out Bend Over Boyfriend for more tips on how to enjoy anal sex.
Amid a sex scandal that has New York reeling, Governor Eliot Spitzer has resigned. We were most curious about comments cited in the New York Times this week.
Governor Spitzer was called “difficult” by Temeka Lewis, one of the bookers at the Emperor’s Club. He asked the prostitutes “to do things you might not think were safe,” according to Ms. Lewis.
Kristen, the hooker in question, didn’t have a problem with the governor’s requests, though, and in fact liked him. According to the court papers, Kristen said to him, “Listen, dude, you really want the sex?”
Which got us wondering…What kind of sex did Governor Spitzer want that made it appear “difficult”? Is he a bottom? Of course it’s a stereotype, but people in positions of power, people who get off on law and order, people at the top, in our experience they like taking it lying down now and then. Maybe Kristen’s really a good dominatrix waitrix.
And then we thought, perhaps he likes it up the butt. Hmm. Is he a bend-over-boyfriend kind of guy?
What do you think? Click “Post a comment” and let us know!
Nan and Christi
Are strap-ons an issue? You might wonder. Since the advent of Bend Over Boyfriend, straight folks are really getting into the idea of women strapping it on for men’s anal pleasure. But lesbians and strapons go way back. (Some people spell strapon as one word; some use a hyphen.)
Each of us has a different memory of our first encounters with strapons. Femmes didn’t used to strap on at all, or hardly ever–strapons were the purview of butches–but Jackie and Shar and a whole generation of women said, “Screw that!” They’ll strap it on when and where they want to.
When Suburban Dykes was released, Miss Sharon Mitchell showed up wearing a terribly sexy strap-on, the epitome of the butch top who taught those girls a thing or two.
Are strap-ons a distraction? They can be for those who aren’t familiar or comfortable with them, but for those of us who like the sensation, the passion only increases. There’s nothing quite like a romp with that strap-on to help ease the way.
What was your first encounter with a strap-on? Tell us your story here.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
We received an interesting letter from a reader who asked, “I have a question about strapons. Is it possible for a woman to wear a strapon underneath her pants or jeans, as long as they’re not too tight? I’ve seen pics of boyshorts for women at Victoria’s Secret that might enable a woman to wear a strapon. But I wanted to know for sure. Could a strapon fit into a woman’s underwear and pants? Would it depend on the size of each item?”
Carol Queen does a great job showing women how to strap it on in Bend Over Boyfriend, and lesbians have many, many role models in lesbian DVDs.
Here are some more strap-on tips:
— Buy a strapon that fits you. If you’re lucky enough to live in a city with a sex-toy store, go there and try on the harness in the dressing room…over your underwear. If you don’t live near a store where you can shop in person, go to a reputable Web site, look around and be sure to check their returns policy. Check out Toys in Babeland’s “How to Choose a Harness” page here.
— If you intend to wear it under jeans or pants, make sure the pants are big enough and have enough give in the butt so that you don’t get the equivalent of panty lines…in this case, strap-on lines.
— You can wear a strapon underneath or over your underwear, but we don’t recommend wearing a strapon with a thong or g-string because the straps can get caught in the thin fabric.
— Strap it on tight! This is important. The strapon needs to sit flat against your skin or underwear.
— If you’re packing–wearing the strapon with a hard or soft dildo–pick a dildo that’s small enough so that your jeans or pants don’t feel too tight. You want to consider if you’re going out in public too. Do you want everyone to see a long hard schlong down your leg? Or don’t you care? As long as you can walk comfortably, suit yourself.
— If you’re packing underneath a pair of underwear, consider wearing boxer shorts or men’s underwear, which has a place for you to pull out your piece and display it. If and when you’re ready, that is.
— Some women like something inside them while wearing a strapon, but in our experience, this is the exception. Those internal muscles are necessary for making love to your partner. Enjoy the clitoral stimulation, and the sheer excitement of sex with a strapon–pleasing your partner.
— Experiment! Most women have more than one harness and use them for different purposes, and to suit their moods. Two-strap harnesses give flexibility, but you might want to try a one-strap harness. You might have a favorite dildo for a girlfriend and another one for packing and hot dates at the local bar.
To see how several different couples make love with strapons, check out Full Load: Scenes from ssspread.com.
Here are some of the more explicit DVDs with strapons.
Straight videos:
Bend Over Boyfriend– Carol Queen gives very clear instructions
Bend Over Boyfriend 2 – More rockin’, less talkin’
Lesbian videos:
The Crash Pad Series Volume 1 – New from Shine Louise Houston
Full Load: Scenes from ssspread.com – Vignettes and explicit strapon scenes
Hard Love and How to F*ck in High Heels – Lots and lots of dildos in all different colors
Suburban Dykes – A classic with Nina Hartley
Sex is about giving. Whether it’s a one-night stand you just met at the bar or coffeehouse or your lover of dozens of years, if you don’t give, and learn to give, there’s no spice. Gratification comes in many forms.
Nan and Deborah founded On Our Backs in 1984 with the idea that the lesbian community had no porn for itself. In 1985 they spun off Fatale, then called Fatale Videos, now morphed into Fatale Media. You know this. But the original impulse was to give images of ourselves to the lesbian community.
(To read Cory Silverberg’s recent interview with Nan about Fatale, check out About.com.)
When the inimitable Shar Rednour came to Nan and said, “We’ve got to make this video…I want to call it Bend Over Boyfriend,” Nan said, “Absolutely!” Why shouldn’t the straight community have alternative images of themselves and what they really do in bed?
Each year at this time, we decide where to make a donation to organizations that make a difference in the world. This year, we’ll give donations to three, but one in particular we wanted to tell you about.
The Free Speech Coalition was founded in 1991 as the U.S. government tried harder and harder to shut down the adult industry. The Free Speech Coalition has been an industry godsend for Fatale, watching and monitoring the U.S. government regarding any attempts to close down purveyors of adult material; lobbying the U.S. government; fostering public communication and education; and when the need arises, going to court.
It wouldn’t be wrong to say that without the Free Speech Coalition, we wouldn’t be able to keep making porn and giving real images to the community—images of who we are and what we really do in bed. So for that, we are grateful.
Oh, and not to get too heavy here, we’ve also got a long list of goodies just for friends and family. Top of the list? Christi’s sister and her girlfriend are getting Shine Louise Houston’s The Crash Pad.
Tell us what you’re giving this year. You can comment here.
Happy Holidays!
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
Sexy Senior Moments
Tuesday, July 15th, 2008We were heartened to read an article the other day in the Washington Post, “Seniors Having More Sex Than Ever” by Alan Mozes.
The senior set—those men and women in their late sixties, seventies and beyond—have increased not only the frequency of sex, but also the quality of their couplings, according to a Swedish study. This study has been ongoing for 30 years, so there’s a strong basis for comparison.
“Women seemed to make the most headway in terms of increasing their sexual satisfaction,” according to the article. While the study doesn’t go into the whys of this newfound satisfaction, we can take a stab at why women are more satisfied.
For one thing, much more information is out there about female ejaculation and the role of the G-spot in spurring women’s satisfaction. Educators like Deborah Sundahl have been teaching women old and young how to find their g-spots.
Couples, we’ve found, are more adventurous, too. Bend Over Boyfriend, now celebrating its 10th anniversary, has worked for tens of thousands of couples who want to spice up their sex lives.
Gone are the days when men had no options for increasing their virility, and gone are the days when widows and married women just didn’t feel like it. We say kudos to those sexy seniors!
Now, if only next time they’d talk to senior lesbians and gay men. We bet there’d be some real “senior moments” from the queer set!
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
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