G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.
Dear Deborah,
I’m curious to attend a workshop on female ejaculation, but what is it like? I’m wondering if it’s uncomfortable to be in a group and try to find your G-spot. Do I have to take off my clothes?
Signed, Not Really Sure
Dear Not Really Sure,
There are four reasons why some people have reservations about attending a workshop:
- You may be too shy to be in a group and discuss your private sexuality
- Perhaps you can’t imagine trying to look at your private parts with other people around
- You’re afraid other women are going to touch you, or solicit you in a situation where you already feel vulnerable and are more likely to succumb to peer pressure, or group ostracism
- You worry you might be made to do something you don’t want to do.
These are pretty scary reasons to not go to a workshop. But this is what really takes place at a workshop:
- You get to hear the stories of other women, often finding inspiration or validation for your own situation
- You get a chance to see other women’s pubic areas, and often their G- spots, and this education goes a very long way in understanding your own body. (No one will touch you; only you touch yourself.)
- You get a chance to be in a room with women who all have the same goal: discovery of and improving upon their sexual knowledge and fulfillment.
Rather than a workshop being a place to get hit on without consent, it is just the opposite. Privacy is paramount and respect for individual boundaries Rule Number One. You wear a sarong and all women have their private space within the group space; this boundary is first and foremost respected.
Rule Number Two is that women do only what they feel comfortable doing.
For example, you wear a sarong, the room is kept comfortably warm and you can bring your own toys or not. The goal is to experience and learn in a congenial, safe atmosphere.
With the rules in place, most women feel extremely comfortable after a few hours and get swept up in the excitement of discovery with women who, just like them, are nervous and excited.
Deborah Sundahl
Send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com.
Be sure to check out Deborah’s DVD, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop, to see a workshop in action.
Originally published as “Ask Fanny: What Happens at a Workshop?” this encore column addresses what to expect from a female ejaculation and G-spot workshop. Check out all of Deborah’s forthcoming webinars and workshops.