Everybody gets tongue-tied now and then, picking up girls, e-mailing potential dates from online personals, approaching somebody on the street or in school or at work.
Be yourself, everybody says.
But what if you don’t know who you are, or who you want to be with this particular person? What if you want to explore something different?
Even couples who have been together for a while might want to break out of routine and try something new.
In Hope Springs, Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones star as a long-term couple who explore adding spark to their marriage.
When asked by the Philippine Daily Inquirer about why passion and sexuality “continue to be subjects that are not so openly discussed,” Streep said, “That has something to do with our vulnerability in talking about sex. We’re talking about our most vulnerable self, our needs, insecurities and nakedness, literally. But we’re also talking about our emotional needs, what we yearn for and what we never stop hoping for.”
Going out on sexier dates means learning to get over being tongue-tied. Being sexier means learning to flirt and even to talk dirty. It means being vulnerable.
In Talk to Me Baby: A Lover’s Guide to Dirty Talk and Role Play director and host Shar Rednour recommends role play for couples who want to explore “something different.”
We think role-play is a perfect way to be vulnerable and protected at the same time. But you have to ask for it. To get up the courage and say, “Want to talk dirty? Want to play dress-up?”
It’s the perfect time of year (think Halloween) to try dressing up and role-playing. There’s not much to lose in toying with new personalities, new personas, reaching inside to grab whatever you yearn for.
You can sound sexy and suggestive, flirty; you can free that sexy creature inside you.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
P.S. SMUT Magazine wrote about Talk to Me Baby: A Lover’s Guide to Dirty Talk and Role Play: “Shar Rednour is, as always, the perfect hostess. She’s her usual vampy, campy and out of control self. What I love about this video is that anyone can get something out of it.”
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The V Word
Friday, September 21st, 2012“Female sexuality around the world is targeted because through traumatizing the vagina, you can intimidate women on multiple other levels,” writes Naomi Wolf, author of a new book called Vagina: A New Biography.
Wolf’s article, “Kate’s breasts, Pussy Riot, virginity tests and our attitude on women’s bodies,” was published this week on CNN.com.
We don’t 100% agree with Wolf about porn—Porn 24/7, as she calls it. But we do agree with her in general about women’s bodies and sexuality. She writes:
The censorship by Apple iTunes, as noted in an article in The Guardian, was shocking enough. Adding asterisks so that the word vagina reads v****a.
We see actions the world over suppressing women’s sexuality and sexual expression.
Still and all, Jennifer Hough, writing in the Toronto Star, says “the widespread activism” about the trial and sentencing of Pussy Riot “suggests these young Russian dissidents are giving the movement new impetus, perhaps even tweaking feminism for a new generation.”
Why does women’s sexuality matter? Why does women’s porn matter? We say: It’s about control. Who controls women’s bodies and sexuality matters.
Yours in good love and sex,
Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com
P.S. Check out what LesbianLife.About.com calls “the best lesbian porn.”
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