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Wintertime is the perfect time to sit by the fire and play footsie, or dine by candlelight on a cold night. If you’re like us and light candles every night—for dinner, or just because it looks nice and feels romantic—then maybe you’ve thought of playing with candle wax.

The main thing to remember if you want to explore what candle wax feels like on bare flesh is that the higher up you hold the candle, the cooler the wax will be when it touches skin.

Use plain unscented tapers, not pillars or votives.

It’s best to begin by having your lover lie on her belly, then hold the candle high above her hips or butt, the fleshy places on her are best. And it’s best to save the upper thighs for later, after she’s gotten used to the sensation of the hot wax dripping.

Go slow, one drip at a time, and talk to her about how it feels. You can also test it out on yourself first too, on your forearm or on your thigh above your knee. If you drip wax on a hairy part of her body, know that the hair will rip out (and probably hurt) when you later remove the wax.

If you’re the bottom and want to “get waxed,” remember to breathe deep and talk to your lover. If the first drop or two are too hot, say so. Relax your butt, too, and really allow the sensations—like pinpricks at first—to penetrate.

As you get more adventurous, try dripping wax on her breasts, down her belly and around her upper thighs. We don’t recommend wax play directly on her clitoris unless you’re well advanced in the art.

Add a blindfold to the erotic play and you can really have fun!

For a delicious hot-wax sex scene, very advanced and not for the faint-hearted, check out Maria Beatty’s The Black Glove, sold on DVD with The Elegant Spanking as Fetish Films Volume I.

(This post is drawn from the Fatale Newsletter archives andwas originally published in Fatale’s newsletter.)