In “Ask Fanny,” a regular Fatale Media newsletter column, G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot.
Dear Fanny,
I have three kids in grade school and to be honest our lovemaking is taking a beating. There just is no time for quality time together sexually, much less learn about female ejaculation, which seem to take a lot of time to learn.
Do you have any suggestions?
Signed,
Swamped in Pennsylvania
Dear Swamped,
Every parent I know has the same problem, and yet the answer is what parent guides have been saying for years: you must take time for your relationship!
I firmly believe that once a month you MUST schedule a weekend together, alone and uninterrupted. Sexuality and lovemaking and time together form the glue that keeps your relationship strong. If you starve it, you end up hurting the entire family in the end. You must put your relationship first, and you must spend the money to invest in this.
Often, the grandparents are all too happy to babysit the kids. One couple I know had 10 brothers and sisters and grandparents all in town, happy to watch the kids, but he didn’t want to “impose.” For one thing, cousins want to see each other, and second, to the vast majority of grandparents, their grandkids are the most important thing in their life and gives them great joy. I told him he was not only robbing his immediately family but his extended family as well.
No family around? You must develop your neighborhood network of swapping and watching one another’s kids.
Logistics and commitment aside, once you have a weekend together, believe me you will have plenty of time to learn how to female ejaculate!
Practice, practice, practice. That’s the key, in my experience, to learning new sexual techniques.
When you see how good you feel and how restored your relationship is, you won’t hesitate to make time for you and your sweetheart.
Good luck!
Fanny
P.S. Want to find out more about female ejaculation?
Check out Deborah Sundahl’s popular sex-education DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples.
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Bye-Bye Don’t Ask Don’t Tell
Tuesday, September 20th, 2011It’s official. Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, the Clinton-era compromise on gays in the military, is done, gone, repealed as of midnight last night.
We thank Grethe Cammermeyer for drawing our attention to this issue many years ago. We hope she, like so many of her compatriots, is celebrating a long-awaited victory today.
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