G-spot expert Deborah Sundahl, a.k.a. Fanny Fatale, answers your questions about female ejaculation and the g-spot. You may send your questions to askfanny@fatalemedia.com; please put FE Q&A in the subject line.
Dear Fanny,
As lesbians, my girlfriend and I have been working at awakening the sensations of our G-spots for some time now. We are noticing how much easier it is to feel erotic pleasure just from gently touching the G-spot and focusing on it. Tantra talks about a merging of sexual energy, and you talk about how this is best transmitted through the G-spot. So what is the best way to do this?
Lenora in Massachusetts
Dear Lenora,
What a great letter! This is my suggestion to begin, as there are many more ways that you will discover as you go along.
Try putting your mouths together and your fingertips touching on the body of each other’s G-spot (where the ridges are). Then, using the breath and being still, let the erotic energy rise up, first in your genitals. Then, using the breath, breathe all that collected erotic energy in your genitals “up” to your mouths.
This is a basic Tantra technique. As you practice this technique of “inner listening” to the body’s feelings of arousal, you will find your erotic energy growing faster and easier each time.
Also, putting your mouths together in a loving kiss actually makes an energetic circle from your fingers and G-spots to your mouths, which enables this process of energetic orgasm. A great book that explains this concept and offers techniques is Healing Love through the Tao: Cultivating Female Sexual Energy by Mantak Chia (Destiny Books, 2005).
Your ejaculation will change as well; it will simply flow out of your body! So, no more stunning and showy feminist ejaculation that you push out to “spray the wall”—the feminist mantra we used when we first made the female-ejaculation video How to Female Ejaculate.
Tantric Journey to Female Orgasm: Awaken Your G-spot shows how ejaculate flows out via energetic stimulation of the G-spot.
As they say, “You’ve come a long way, baby.” Indeed! Now the new territory to explore is energetic sexuality. With its ties to spirit, this is like the feminist Goddess culture reborn! Enjoy the new adventure.
Deborah
P.S. See Deborah Sundahl live! Spring tour dates include the East Coast of the U.S. this week; Vancouver, B.C. and Seattle in late April, early May; New Mexico on May 10-11; England, France and Germany beginning mid-May. See Deborah’s full schedule at the Isis Media Web site.
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