Some of you are interested in slowing down and going deeper into your sexuality, your erotic desires and your intimacy with a partner. For those of you who are ready or curious, Tantra is your ticket.
Here for the New Year are Five Principles of Tantric Sex to contemplate:
Breathe
The vast majority of people hold their breath when they are sexually excited or about to have that orgasm. Tantra teaches the opposite: breathing will lengthen and heighten your sensual pleasure and your orgasm.
Relax
Most folks tense up when they are trying to have an orgasm – especially when we use a vibrator. Tantra teaches how to have exquisite orgasms by doing the opposite: relaxing. Relaxing into pleasure. Breathe. Relax.
Open Your Body to Sensation
When we tense and don’t breathe, we feel fewer sensations, and therefore need more stimulation (like a vibrator or harder cracks on the ass) to become aroused. Tantra teaches the body to become nearly electric with sensation when it is touched. Breathe. Relax. Feel More Pleasure.
Circulate Erotic Energy throughout Your Body
Why let that large pool of erotic sensation stay in the genital area? That aroused state is energy, and it is delicious. Tantra teaches how to expand that energy beyond your genitals and into the rest of your body. That feel-good pleasure is healing to every cell, as well. Breathe. Relax. Feel More Pleasure. Have a BodyGasm.
Resources
My two favorite books:
Tantra Between the Sheets by Val Sampson
The Essential Tantra by Kenneth Ray Stubbs and Kyle Spencer
My favorite video:
A two-set by Margot Anand, the French-born and Sorbonne-bred lady who brought the old ancient Tantra tradition to America in a modern form: Secret Keys to the Ultimate Love Life.
My favorite educational Web site: Tantra.com
May your new year find you slowing down, vibing in and turning on with greater depth and pleasure.
Fanny
askfanny@fatalemedia.com
For tips on Tantra and Tantric sex, check out Deborah Sundahl’s DVD, Tantric Journey to Female Orgasm: Unveiling the G-Spot and Female Ejaculation.
Remembering
Thursday, January 1st, 2009Some of our influences and friends who died in 2008 include –
Blues and folk singer Odetta, whom we had the pleasure of seeing perform live in Upstate New York many years ago.
Paula Gunn Allen, who inspired us with her Native American lesbian sensibility.
Our friend Del Martin (right), the first woman to be married in California this past year.
The exquisite Bettie Page, the source of inspiration for at least one performer in Fatale’s films.
Eartha Kitt, whose purr was music to our ears.
These monumental women have inspired and spurred us through the years. We mourn their passing.
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