Archive for 2008

Sex Tips & Tricks – What Women Want

Wednesday, September 3rd, 2008

A friend has been dating a woman for a few months. They took a long trip to China together, they’ve dated, and he has done everything “right.”

Lo and behold, a sad e-mail arrived the other day: “Our union is off.”

Union? What union? Were they thinking of getting married? Already?

Women need time. For as long as we’ve been lesbians (forever), this is one thing we know for certain.

A few months of dinners and movies and taking a trip, even a long one to China, is not enough time for her to feel secure in marriage.

But, you say, what about shotgun weddings? All those couples who get married right out of high school? All those women who get pregnant and marry in order to give their children a stable home?

We won’t deny that sometimes things move fast. But moving fast is not ideal.

Just as men don’t need nearly as much time in bed in order to orgasm, so too, in bed, most women need more time than men in order to orgasm.

Sure women can fake orgasms. Remember that scene in When Harry Met Sally?

But we women don’t want to fake orgasms. Women want real orgasms and real relationships and real romance.

Scene from The Crash Pad Series Volume 2

Fanny Fatale has written extensively on men’s lovemaking habits in order to help them stimulate the g-spot and allow their lovers to ejaculate.

When we were watching The Crash Pad Series Volume 2: Unlocked, women take all the time they want in order to orgasm. Their partners indulge them and give them whatever they need or want. Why rush?

As in lovemaking, men need to go slow with women. Women need to go slow with women. That’s what romance is all about.

Is our take on all this one big generalization? Yes. Are there wide swaths of truth here? You tell us.

Your Favorite Position * Faked Orgasms?

Thursday, August 28th, 2008

In last month’s poll, we asked: What’s your favorite position for mind-blowing orgasms?

Arf arf!

You can see all the favorite sex positions results here.

This month we ask: Have you or your partner ever faked an orgasm?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex.

Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com

Susie Bright Comes to Visit

Friday, August 15th, 2008

We had a delightful surprise last week. Susie Bright called to say she was in town. She was headed to visit a friend, to celebrate his 70th birthday with him.

The four of us had a lovely dinner sitting outside at a local restaurant. Afterwards, we took pictures.

Susie Bright and Nan Kinney
The fabulous Susie Bright with Nan Kinney…

Susie and Nan go way back to the first days of On Our Backs magazine, which they co-founded with Deborah Sundahl.

“I became famous for my lesbian sex consulting on Bound, but I learned all my lesbian erotic chops as a young dyke, working on Fatale Video’s first titles,” Susie said when we asked her what she thought of the reunion.

Suburban Dykes“It was so exciting to be making the first lesbian-made erotic films, ever, and they hold up to the test of time,” Susie said.

One of those lesbian classics Susie worked on, still a Fatale lesbian bestseller, is Suburban Dykes, starring Nina Hartley and Miss Sharon Mitchell.

Thank you, Susie. You may come back and visit anytime. We’d love to have you again.

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

Global Nudity

Friday, August 15th, 2008

A customer and longtime friend wrote to tell us about the World Naked Bike Ride. We confess we’re fond of the women’s Olympic bicycle race, but this was new to us.

Cyclists in 70 cities across 20 countries have participated, and it’s easy to sign up to volunteer to ride naked in a city near you.

If you’re headed to Burning Man, a naked bike ride is planned in Nevada for August 28, 2008.

World Naked Bike Ride
Check it out here: World Naked Bike Ride.

Have you ever ridden naked in the World Naked Bike Ride? What’s it like? Let us know by clicking “Post a Comment” below.

Two Lovely Letters

Friday, August 15th, 2008

We received two great notes from customers recently and wanted to share them with you.

Angie from the U.K. wrote:
“I just wanted to say thank you for such an excellent and speedy service! I am very impressed. Received quickly and safely.”

And Melony T. wrote:
“Thank you so much for your speedy service and confirmation of order sent. You guys have always been great!

Your feedback, suggestions and kind words mean a lot to us. Thank you.

Read what our customers say!

Have a question about Fatale’s order options and worldwide shipping? You can find your answers on Fatale’s Order Info page.

Or contact us, and we’ll answer right away. That’s a promise!

Until next time, we wish you dazzling hot sex.

Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com

Wet Fun in the Summertime

Friday, August 1st, 2008

Vacations are a great time to experiment with your lover and try new things. Face it: You’re relaxed and happy and not strapped to your workload. When all defenses are down, then you can open up and enjoy. Orgasms you never thought were in you are free to come gushing out.

If you’re on your way out of town—to the beach or mountains or an island spa—or even if you’re just staying home this year, here are some suggestions to break out of the same-old, same-old mold.

  • Get out of the bedroom. Especially if you’re on vacation, try the porch or veranda at night. And if you’ve never tried it, the bathtub can be fun. Even the laundry room has potential.
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  • Get out of the house. Romance your lover with a picnic just for two…or head to your local nightclub and find a dark corner.
  • Reverse your roles. Never strapped on a dildo? Go for it, girlfriend. Always wanted to bend over your boyfriend? Get some more rockin’ inspiration with BOB2.
  • Put on a show. Masturbate for your sweetie, or put on some sexy music and dance.
  • Fulfill your deepest fantasy. Pick up a girl and try a threesome. We love the threeway in Shine Louise Houston’s In Search of the Wild Kingdom. A blast! 

What do you think? What new positions or sex tricks have you tried lately? Click “Post a comment” and tell us!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com

One Night Stand Review

Friday, August 1st, 2008

One Night Stand lesbian DVDFatale’s latest DVD One Night Stand is a hit!

Gram Ponante wrote in Fleshbot, “[T]he excellent soundtrack and appealing, occasional outside filming make Paris look like it is crawling with predatory lesbians…with not one shot of the phallic Eiffel Tower in sight.”

Read Gram’s whole review and see pictures from One Night Stand at Fleshbot.

Sex Tips & Tricks – Wet Summer Fun

Friday, August 1st, 2008

By Fanny Fatale

Summertime fun means getting wet all over, so let’s get down to it, girls!

Here is the best position for female ejaculation in a large bathtub, hot tub, swimming pool or your local wilderness river (wee hours of the morn’, of course).

This idea arose from the French actresses in my new video, Female Ejaculation: The Workshop

Female Ejaculation - The Workshop We rented an old, restored hotel room in Paris that used to be a brothel, and the large, sumptuous tub spurred many a creative idea!

The lesbian scene stars French adult idol Lydia St. Martin and up-and-coming, HOT French lesbian adult actress Wendi Delorme. The scene they did in the bathtub for the camera (and our benefit) turned out to be optimum for both partner and student when learning how to female ejaculate.

The fun, however, isn’t just for newbies…

Sit up on the rim of a large bathtub while your partner is sitting in the bathtub in the water. Alternatives to a large bathtub are: edge of pool or hot tub, dock at the lake, kayak on land, incline of a riverbank. The elevated position of the woman about to ejaculate is ideal for the partner who is sitting – usually in various levels of water – because she can see her finger(s) rub the body of the g-spot.

But that’s only half of it. Your partner will actually be able to see the head of your g-spot being pushed out of the vagina when her queen on a special seat ejaculates! Why? Think eye level.

In addition, this is the best position to receive an “arc” of ejaculate right in the face and chest! A delightful reward for your partner’s patience and efforts to assist the fountainous favors to flow!

For those of you who follow my column “Ask Fanny,” we know that one of the biggest obstacles for women to ejaculate freely is not letting go, sometimes due to the fear of urinating.

Moving to a water source minimizes concerns that the woman trying to ejaculate might have about peeing. (This may not work for an urban setting, but if you are doing it near dawn on an urban curb, you probably are not the type who has to learn how to let go!)
 
But for the rest of you more reserved women who are first learning to ejaculate (and even for the diehard veterans) a good reminder is this: Recite your mantra: Prepare to Pee.

This motto works to remove the deeply embedded fear of peeing to help you learn to let go! To repeat: when a women’s G-spot is stimulated, it swells with prostatic fluid (female ejaculate). At that point, it is as difficult for a woman to pee as it is for a man when he is swollen and sexually excited. What is not difficult at that point for either a woman or a man is to ejaculate!

No watering hole? Go outside in the backyard and sit on a chair. Make sure it is a chair that won’t flop over backward when you are in the throws of orgasm, okay? That said, give your partner an eyeful while you sit on the edge of the chair and she sits on a picnic blanket on the ground. Hot afterwards? Drown yourself in a bucket of water à la Jennifer Beals in Flashdance.

Female Ejaculation - The Workshop DVDTo see Wendi and Lydia’s bathtub scene and female ejaculation, check out Female Ejaculation: The Workshop.

Female Ejaculation for Couples DVDWant to see even more positions for fabulous female ejaculations? Check out my straight DVD Female Ejaculation for Couples. You’ll see lots and lots of good positions!

Gay Marriage * Your Favorite Position?

Thursday, July 31st, 2008

In last month’s poll, we asked: Do you think gay marriage should be legalized?

By an overwhelming majority, gay marriage should be legalized! Not surprising, given the source of the question. Gay-marriage advocates are doing the right thing!

You can see all the results here.

This month we ask: What’s your favorite position for mind-blowing orgasms?

Vote now! The poll is on Fatale’s home page.

And we’ll give you the results next month.

Until then, we wish you dazzling hot sex.

Nan and Christi
www.fatalemedia.com

Sexy Senior Moments

Tuesday, July 15th, 2008

We were heartened to read an article the other day in the Washington Post, “Seniors Having More Sex Than Ever” by Alan Mozes.

The senior set—those men and women in their late sixties, seventies and beyond—have increased not only the frequency of sex, but also the quality of their couplings, according to a Swedish study. This study has been ongoing for 30 years, so there’s a strong basis for comparison.

“Women seemed to make the most headway in terms of increasing their sexual satisfaction,” according to the article. While the study doesn’t go into the whys of this newfound satisfaction, we can take a stab at why women are more satisfied.

For one thing, much more information is out there about female ejaculation and the role of the G-spot in spurring women’s satisfaction. Educators like Deborah Sundahl have been teaching women old and young how to find their g-spots.

Couples, we’ve found, are more adventurous, too. Bend Over Boyfriend, now celebrating its 10th anniversary, has worked for tens of thousands of couples who want to spice up their sex lives.

Gone are the days when men had no options for increasing their virility, and gone are the days when widows and married women just didn’t feel like it. We say kudos to those sexy seniors!

Now, if only next time they’d talk to senior lesbians and gay men. We bet there’d be some real “senior moments” from the queer set!

Yours in good love and sex,

Nan & Christi
nan@fatalemedia.com
christi@fatalemedia.com